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southsamurai@sh.itjust.works â¨2⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Hypothetically, I donât have a limit st the high end, and the low end would be based more on the individual, but no younger than eighteen.
In reality, chances of finding someone in their twenties that would mesh well with for dating is unlikely, so thirty-ish is a more realistic lower age.
Upper end is less restricted for dating, but on a realistic level, Iâm not going to enter a relationship with someone thatâs into their seventies just because of life span probability after that.
Luckily, Iâm happily married, so I donât have to worry about that shit. But Iâve never cared about ages for dating, since dating is essentially âtrying onâ someone for a more committed relationship. It makes it worth interacting with people that are less likely to be compatible on a surface level, when going into it with the knowledge that itâs probably going to peter out anyway, so the risks of it having a high price are lower.
Seriously, every relationship has difficulties. You canât predict whatâs going to arise over decades of being together. So limiting options by age ends up being arbitrary. While I never went looking for people far away from my age, anyone old enough and developed enough to understand what a relationship is was the determinant.
Now, on a practical level, once youâre out in the work force, chances are that youâll be interacting with people from their mid-to-late twenties up to their sixties. So you arenât going to end up dating outside of that range often. To date someone you have to meet them, and communicate often enough to ask them for time outside of whatever scope you meet them in. So I never really dated outside that range at any point. But I wouldnât have rejected the possibility if it came up.
I dunno, I just donât see age gaps as a problem.