Sometimes people use that question rhetorically because it feels polite, viewing it as a small talk precursor to ease in to actually just saying what they want.
I don’t like when people use it as such, because it is insincere, poor consent practice, and low-key manipulative due to the foot in the door phenomenon .
There are tons of legitimate reasons to not be comfortable with the question. Don’t have time, bad headspace, don’t feel comfortable… If they can’t understand that, I try not to care what they think of me.
TachyonTele@piefed.social 10 months ago
There's beggers all around in my area. I say no all the time. You get tired of all the same begging bs very quickly.
At least he didn't continue asking you and following you.