Comment on "Can i ask you for a favor?" Is it rude to say no?
SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
Assume they’re asking because they want to make sure it’s not imposing, in which case it’s good to assert boundaries you need too. If they push it was just a manipulation tactic, in which case you’re more than justified in walking.
Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world 4 days ago
He walked away. Said something about it’s not for money or something, I’m very suspicious of random humans.
Since he walked away i assume he meant no harm. I thought it strange shrug.
SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
Sometimes people use that question rhetorically because it feels polite, viewing it as a small talk precursor to ease in to actually just saying what they want.
I don’t like when people use it as such, because it is insincere, poor consent practice, and low-key manipulative due to the foot in the door phenomenon .
There are tons of legitimate reasons to not be comfortable with the question. Don’t have time, bad headspace, don’t feel comfortable… If they can’t understand that, I try not to care what they think of me.
Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world 4 days ago
This is part of my fear.
TachyonTele@piefed.social 4 days ago
There's beggers all around in my area. I say no all the time. You get tired of all the same begging bs very quickly.
At least he didn't continue asking you and following you.