Comment on "Can i ask you for a favor?" Is it rude to say no?

Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Your stance is that I’m required to say yes for some random street person to ask you for a favor?

  As in yes, please explain the favor first so I can say no afterwards?

  I suffer from anxiety and nearly had a panic attack. Been mugged and had broken bone from it.

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  • Hereforpron2@lemmynsfw.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    You chose a seemingly intentionally rude way to respond. There’s a whole lot of ways to decline something, and it’s just as easy to be polite as not. “Sorry, I don’t have time,” even just “sorry” and keep walking are great options. Or you can choose to make someone feel bad just for asking/needing help with something. Not sure why you’d choose to make a stranger feel bad, but I guess that’s up to you.

    And btw, the way you are responding to comments makes clear that, rather than genuinely asking this question, you are just looking for people to tell you it was ok to be rude.

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    • Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      The interaction made me feel bad.

      Like maybe they are getting ready to con me. The foot in the door that someone referenced earlier. I was attempting to be polite and firm with “no, I dont do thing”. It didn’t matter the human that was asking.

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    • SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I guess you could say OP’s wording was a bit rude (stylistically, not in substance, imo). Personally I’d go with a “No, sorry.” or “Sorry, in a rush!” if on the move, and leave it at that as elaboration leaves the door open for them to pry. Either way the question is about whether it’s rude to refuse, not whether the specific example was.

      Personally, I’d rather assume OP is chatting/providing more context rather than fishing for sympathy. Many of the comments that say it is rude also say but not if it’s a rando, which it was.

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    • Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Keep walking while sitting and waiting for my food…

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  • SolOrion@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I don’t think you’re required to do it, personally, but I agree that it would be rude to not even hear someone out. It could be anything from, “can you hold this for a second” to “do you mind splitting this $8000 timeshare with me?”

    If it’s just a completely random person on the street, and their first word is “can you do me a favor” that’s different. Especially if there’s an actual reason for you to feel unsafe- if you’re alone/it’s a shady area type thing.

    This probably depends on the area, though. I’m from the southeastern US and from my understanding people engage with each other waaay more in public here than they do in- as a random example- New York.

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  • Vespair@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I have severe anxiety too. It is an unfortunate additional challenge, but it does not absolve us our part in society nor give us an excuse to treat others poorly.

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