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unemployedclaquer@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

From the u.s. and I lived in Germany for a year. It was the trains and the castles and the history that had me wanting to stay. That stuff is probably boring to you. Your concerns about artificiality are valid. But I did not feel like Germany was massively different. I had more cultural shock from moving to a small town in West Virginia than Germany.

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searching_way@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
That’s a very interesting topic that you had bigger differences within the US. I wonder how great environments between the countries differ and what the different nuances are. I used to mostly dislike the old buildings and castles in Germany (or in Europe in general) and thought they were depressing. But I seem to have a deeper connection to that (maybe because I grew up in this environment) and my dreams are often in this European/Harry Potter-style environment. I guess my subconscious can’t quite envision an American environment cause I’ve never been in one.

So in my dreams I’m often surrounded by a city with stone buildings and large walkable pedestrian areas that actually feel very warm and wholesome (even though it’s not quite the same irl). And sometimes it’s more rural places in large open spots with a bunch of people having fun (unfortunately that’s also not quite how life is really like, it’s more special in my dreams). But trains I find generally very depressing, never dreamed of them.

I wonder what environments Americans dream of like maybe more like large roads or suburban type environments. Maybe more rural/warm nature type environments. (I guess it also heavily depends where you are from like city vs rural)

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- iii@mander.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  It’s like I may have the longing for both America and Europe.
  
  Montréal :)
  
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- treadful@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  I wonder what environments Americans dream of like maybe more like large roads or suburban type environments. Maybe more rural/warm nature type environments. (I guess it also heavily depends where you are from like city vs rural)
  
  Here I am, as an American, dreaming of smaller roads and walkable cities.
  
  Grass is always greener, maybe.
  
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  - iii@mander.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    dreaming of smaller roads and walkable cities.
    
    Grass is always greener, maybe.
    
    It’s a bit like us going: “i love how people in the US live close to a central park, above a coffee shop, in a big appartment, with a bunch of friends, on a bartenders wage”.
    
    The romanticized vision of EU comes from disneyland-esque tourist destinations (which are lovely!), and romcoms, I think. Day-to-day life, ofcourse, differs. (1)
    
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  - unemployedclaquer@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    Smaller roads and walkable cities
    
    That is definitely the dream
    
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