Fair enough, but was one of you 30 years older than the other? I’m not saying there aren’t healthy relationships with circumstances that might otherwise be a red flag.

Hell, when I first hooked up with my current wife, I was her direct supervisor at work. Big red flag there! We ended up breaking it off for the obvious complications, but ran into each other ten years later, tried again under new conditions, and are now happily married with quite the extended family.

But the combination of a teenager/early 20s and a middle aged person in a situation like those, is more than likely to be a dysfunctional unbalanced relationship.