OTOH if you have to ask, then a couple possibilities need to be considered. Maybe they are already so well appointed, a twenty dollar trinket is just a waste of our planet’s dwindling resources. Maybe you know them so poorly, it really isn’t appropriate to be buying them a gift in the first place.

What we all want for our birthday is to feel like we are special to the people in our lives. That they know us, care about us, and wish us well. That’s not the sort of thing you can ask for; if you have to ask, it devalues it tremendously.