Comment on Suddenly seeing more hexbear posts. Did we re-federate with them?

• yuri@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  you guys are also like, just huge dicks without provocation. like all the fucken time. 99% of what i see from hexbear users is either condescension or outright hostility.

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  • Kuori@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    honestly it’s a pretty friendly instance all told, we just have p strong feelings about politics and bigotry

    and admittedly a lot of us have little patience for the worst among you bc we deal with that shit permeating society at every level on a constant basis

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    • ZodiacSF1969@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Oh, so you understand how everyone else feels about you then.

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      • somename@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        You get bullied for bad takes sometimes on the internet is exactly the same as living as an oppressed minority irl. Yes.

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      • AntiOutsideAktion@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        :smuglord:

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      • RuthlessCriticism@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        Yeah, cognitive dissonance hurts, so you respond aggressively, perfectly understandable, if disappointing.

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    • yuri@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      hey ditto! i have very little patience for the worst among you, because when i look through comment sections looking for discourse i instead see you fuckers starting the same 5 arguments.

      also, coincidentally, i see a lot of folks from marginalized groups specifically complaining about y’all being insensitive and shitty. it’s hard to respect what you say your motives are when your camp is acting like it is.

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      • sharedburdens@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        Really? cause when I look through comment sections it’s always liberals spewing the same fucking lines, and acting like everyone they disagree with can’t possibly also be from marginalized groups.

        The amount of casual misogyny, racism, and generally sickening comments I’ve seen has shot through the roof since we federated, and it’s exclusively been coming from lemmitors.

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      • somename@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        Give me an example of a user from Hexbear being racist/transphobic/homophobic etc.

        Just one. Please.

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      • Egon@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        hey ditto! i have very little patience for the worst among you, because when i look through comment sections looking for discourse i instead see you fuckers starting the same 5 arguments.

        If this is how you initiate discussion - with hostility - then that experience does not surprise me. Consider being less shitty yourself.

        also, coincidentally, i see a lot of folks from marginalized groups specifically complaining about y’all being insensitive and shitty. it’s hard to respect what you say your motives are when your camp is acting like it is.

        I find that very hard to believe. The websites modteam is majority LGBTQ+ we have a diverse group of users, and this is because the mod team takes bigotry very seriously. If you see any bigoted takes please report them, and also please give me some examples of this from hexbear users.

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      • AssortedBiscuits@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        also, coincidentally, i see a lot of folks from marginalized groups specifically complaining about y’all being insensitive and shitty.

        Now that’s a lie if I ever saw you lmao

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  • Egon@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I see a lot of hexbear users be provocative, but I’ve yet to see it without reason. It’s in response to someone else acting in bad faith. When you see someone act rude, take a step back and consider why they are acting rude.
    Not to say we don’t have users that are too quick on the draw of the ppb, but your website certainly has cantankerous assholes as well. Every site has.

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  • Staines@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Hexbear - “that’s true, I see how our culture can be hard to decipher” Lemmylib - “you guys are huge dicks without provocation” Hexbear - oh well fuck you then :) Lemmylib - “see, so hostile!”

    If we respond to people being needlessly aggro with quip derision it’s “so uncivil!” If we respond to people in good faith by trying to explain our differing views it’s “wow im not going to read that!”

    So what should we do?

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  • brain_in_a_box@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    You have a very strange idea of “without provocation”

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