Comment on Does anyone else hate knowing stuff and looking "smart"?

Geometrinen_Gepardi@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Even if I don’t say anything, I still feel bad for knowing, and extra bad for not helping the person out, but I’d feel worse if I did.

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  • Guidy@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Then you should talk to a professional until you feel differently. This is not normal. Being smart is good. Being curious is good. Being a lifelong learner is ideal. Whoever or whatever taught or showed you otherwise is wrong.

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  • Sergio@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    There are a couple abilities involved:

    • knowing something
    • modeling a learner: understanding someone else’s current level of knowledge and the nature of their lack of knowledge such as misconceptions.
    • instruction skill: having the ability to remedy the learner’s misconceptions and build upon their existing knowledge to transmit the knowledge/skill

    The last two are nontrivial. You ever told someone the answer to something and they just didn’t get it? Even though it was stunningly obvious to you? The last two are why.

    Anyway, to your point: a lot of times the best action is just to point someone in the right direction.

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  • folekaule@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Try to come across friendly without sounding condescending.

    First, empathize (I know those things can be tricky, it took me a minute the first time), then offer to help without judgement (I have some experience with these, would you like me to try?), then back off if they say no.

    If they refuse help, you’ve done what you can, end of story. Don’t be pushy.

    Key point here is to be nice about it. Don’t call them out or make them feel dumb. Don’t judge. You don’t know why they’re not getting it, and next time maybe it is you who is “dumb”.

    Also, don’t expect everyone to share your intellect (it’s obvious to you) or curiosity (you want to know how it works). Most people just want their problem fixed and move on.

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  • Geometrinen_Gepardi@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I’m guessing you’re young? Just wait, it gets easier with time.

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