Comment on Is this picture idea immature?
drkt_@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 months ago
It is immature and if you go around showing it to girls expecting a date you’ll be disappointed.
Do it because it’s funny, not because you could use it as an ice-breaker (you can’t). If you really want to impress girls, doing it and not giving a fuck what your sister things is more likely the impress someone, girl or not- but it’s not an ice-breaker.
Well he wants to put it on dating profiles.
I just want to do it as not an ice breaker but as something I can bring up on a date while talking about other stuff if it’s relevant.
We are mostly doing it for the lols but figured it being an icebreaker was an extra.
It’s a completely fine idea, people will probably also find it funny as well. Please don’t listen to these dinosaurs and enjoy life.
I think it could work great on a dating profile. It’s unique, memorable, and a conversation starter for the apps that require comments when liking
Maybe not as the first image, but anywhere else. Pair it with a witty caption
Dating website: probably way too soon to share, just looks cringe.
First date: too soon to share, painfully obvious ploy for attention/trying to stand out.
Second date: getting closer, almost there.
Third date: probably safe to share as something endearing and silly.
My suggestion is to do it for yourself because it is fun, because trying to use it as a token to stand out from other men will be seen as a desperate attempt to be funny/quirky, if you bring it out to early.
Dating website: probably way too soon to share, just looks cringe
You might be right in this case, but I also want to point out that most dating profile fucking suck, and it’s not because they are too “cringe” or immature; it’s because they are all the same generic pictures. Wedding, gym, hiking, dead-fish, bar, dog.
I think this is the reason he shouldn’t do it. If the whole reason to do it is to attract women, that is pretty unattractive. It would be funny if they just did it for the “fuck it, why not be silly?” aspect of it, but I feel like if the original reason is to attract women, then the jig is up and it is forced and weird.
“Let’s be silly” is cool and attractive. “Let’s be silly so we can attract women” is cringe and off-putting.
What you say is not universally true. There are women (I know, being one of them) who are attracted by silly. To me, seeing a man enjoying a silly situation he himself created means I could potentially enjoy something like that with him one day, which is super exciting to me. If OP wants to meet someone to share silly things with, he should include such photo - it’s going to filter out the women who are way too serious.
Precisely why I said that he should do it for himself because it is fun. It’s also why I consider it third date material. Not something you bring up spontaneously, but more that they’ve come back to your apartment and see the photo hanging on your fridge. A casual introduction to it, not forced. It’s hanging on your fridge because it’s genuinely something you had fun doing, not because you wanted to use it to get women.
But, agreed, if the core of the reason for doing it is to attract women, it’s going to backfire spectacularly.
hypnicjerk@lemmy.world 11 months ago
i think filtering out the kinds of people who would be offended/icked by this (e.g. on a dating site profile) is probably a benefit. i can’t fuck someone i can’t laugh with.