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• Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  I am sorry that your understanding of the issue is solely limited to the ability to consent of a person and not the nature of the consent and the underlaying dynamics of such a relationship.

  and adult or not, at 19yo most people don’t know the chains of adulthood and the dangers of dependencies. A 50+yo certainly does. If I am in an environment that my partner is familiar with, I expect my partner to care for me and look out for my interest. E.g. my gf’s culture has a very different understanding of what spicy means, I can eat real mala but some of their stuff is just way to spicy for me. She warns me. The 50+yo is the person familiar with the environment in the context of dependencies. They carry a responsibility towards their partner if it is real love. engaging in such a relationship could be an indicator that they take advantage of their partner lack of knowledge/experience or that they don’t know any better and at 50+yo, both are yikes.

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  • Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    that they take advantage of their partner lack of knowledge/experience or that they don’t know any better and at 50+yo, both are yikes.

    but you know that it usually is neither of those two, right? (if not big mega yikes on you)

    mostly those women are only in it for the money, so where’s the problem?

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    • Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Oh boy! You serious? I said if it is real love and:

      We need to make the difference between what each person thinks.

      Let’s say, person A is 50+ yo and person B is 19yo.

      If A doesn’t love B and B doesn’t live A, A is just getting a prostitute. And that can be judged for all the reasons, you can judge that for. And personally, I think using the service of a sex worker is yikes.

      If A doesn’t love B and B loves A, then it is obvious why it is abusive and yikes.

      If A loves B and B doesn’t love A, because B is in it for the money, A is doing what you quoted and B is taking advantage too but without necessarily knowing what that could mean down the line.

      If A loves B and B loves A, A is doing what you quoted.

      As I said in my comment, if it is real love, meaning of the side of A as I was judging his behavior, what I said remains true.

      Thanks for showing us that you aren’t willing to think about the topic in detail. I will take that as a sign to end the conversation. Have a great day and try thinking about it.

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      • Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        most of the time there isn’t any love involved and both parties know it, since it’s common enough. if the woman is above 18 and fine with an transactional relationship like this, what’s the problem? sex work (or escort or whatever) is work too

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