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Azzu@lemm.ee 3 days agoIt certainly sounds like there’s something missing in the doctor’s knowledge, or in them explaining it to you. Doctors very often dismiss patients because they are also only human, and they work in a terrible system that encourages them to quickly get rid of patients.
So I fully encourage you to go back, or go to a different doctor, and get a fuller picture of the problem, make them explain, and get all your needs met.
However, your explanation is extremely far-fetched, you jump from different concepts that are not proven to be related to others. You also need to consider that you might be wrong, you can’t only assume by default that the doctor is wrong. They have assimilated lots of medical knowledge which you have not, which doesn’t mean they will have good knowledge about your particular situation.
But maybe they do have good knowledge about your particular situation. Maybe you just didn’t understand them because you yourself are missing knowledge. It’s their responsibility to help you understand, but it’s also your responsibility to be open to gain a new understanding, which you don’t seem to be. You seem to be very sure of your explanation, which you, at least fron what I can see, you have no real reason to be sure, at least not more than the doctor.
DaddysLittleSlut@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It’s that they don’t explain to me or even try and see if there’s any merit in it. And yeah as you said. There is a system that encourages them to quickly get rid of patients.
I wouldn’t mind going back to a doctor and see but I don’t want to waste my time. It’s like how many times are they just going to ask a basic questionnaire and then dismiss me without trying to find out anything.
Lastly. While I can see why it seems incredibly far fetched the idea i mentioned. I don’t see how it wouldn’t make sense. I mean I will say there’s a big possibility I could be wrong in a certain manor but it is how I learned to understand it. And it seemingly worked very well. Though no one seems to be able to explain why it would be wrong or even be able to get anywhere that far without just labeling it mental illness or being non constructive.
Azzu@lemm.ee 3 days ago
The thing with doctors is, you have to do your own work to disrupt their standard way of working. It’s actually really hard, but it’s possible. You have to basically be persistent but very polite and understanding of them. You have to keep asking questions until you are either satisfied or are sure that they can’t help you because they’re too closed off. You can’t let them dismiss you even when they try.
You have to basically make them think of you as a person rather than a patient. Doctors can be very empathetic and helpful when you manage to do this, because then they remember why they became doctors, because they want to help people. But it is work on your side to get them to this state, which is annoying and not always possible, so I can completely understand why you wouldn’t want to “waste your time”.
Azzu@lemm.ee 3 days ago
As for your idea, it does definitely make sense. The question I would personally pose would be more like, how does it help you? What do you actually want from the doctor? Do you want their understanding or do you want medical help in some way? What’s your goal there?
Theoretically, if you want, you can just look for studies or other information on your particular situation. But usually, a doctor will be much better at this, because they have contextual knowledge or other kind of advantages that will help them find the correct studies more quickly, or interpret them more accurately. The hard part is getting them to do it. I had success with this by pointing out inconsistencies in the symptoms, by asking for explanations, by asking them where they got their information from.
DaddysLittleSlut@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I guess the most important thing I want from a doctor. Is to listen to me. Even if they doubt it. I would like help understanding what may all happen. Maybe help finding out where to get scans to help science. Like I don’t know whether only the upper and middle portions of my ribs are fused or fully. Beyond that like today. I went today to see about hydration and they pushed me quickly out of the door. Though I drank 33 fl ounces of pedialtye in 2-3 days and each day 4-5 water bottles and still wasn’t hydrated enough to feel comfortable.