Yeah I get that as well since the dad obviously wanted to understand and support his child, but come on.
I'm not trans but in my teens I definitely looked like a "freak" but all my dad ever said was something in the lines of that he was proud of me for being who I wanted despite what others might think.
Bet he worried internally though. :)
I can only ever somewhat begin to understand the amount of stress that my “not normal” existence has caused my normie mom.
Yet it must be a drop in the bucket compared to the amount of stress I experienced being raised by someone who cares more about what others think when they look at her kid, than by anything her kid is actually experiencing.
It sounds like this dad is at least trying. If my mom showed even this much ability to listen to my concerns, I’d consider it a win. Instead I just get shut down at Christmas when I respond to, “How are you?” with, “Not sleeping well, not eating well,” and when asked why, respond honestly with, “Concerned about my and my loved ones’ safety under the upcoming authoritarian regime.”
Everyone else at the table: Knows exactly what I’m talking about. Offers understanding and support
Mom, and only Mom: “Hey we shouldn’t talk about politics at a party, it makes people uncomfortable.”
Everyone else at the table: Acquiesces
I mean, we picked the discussion back up as soon as she left to go home, but it’s still disheartening to know that my mom would rather appeal to “not offending” imaginary people who aren’t even at the table, than to listen to the valid concerns that threaten her own child. Even my dad came up to me after this and offered tangible support. It’s just my mom, my “apolitical” mom who truly believes “bOtH siDeS sAmE” and refuses to entertain the slightest political thought.
It doesn’t surprise me that fascism is winning, when I consider that there are millions of people across the U.S. who view “politics” through the same lens she does.
LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
I would say that that is a legitimate concern of a parent who wants their child to have a “normal” life. Badly worded, of course.
guy@piefed.social 5 days ago
Yeah I get that as well since the dad obviously wanted to understand and support his child, but come on.
I'm not trans but in my teens I definitely looked like a "freak" but all my dad ever said was something in the lines of that he was proud of me for being who I wanted despite what others might think.
Bet he worried internally though. :)
LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
Mine told me to take a shower and put on a clean t-shirt. I cannot say he wasn’t right :)
But I get what you mean.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 5 days ago
I can only ever somewhat begin to understand the amount of stress that my “not normal” existence has caused my normie mom.
Yet it must be a drop in the bucket compared to the amount of stress I experienced being raised by someone who cares more about what others think when they look at her kid, than by anything her kid is actually experiencing.
It sounds like this dad is at least trying. If my mom showed even this much ability to listen to my concerns, I’d consider it a win. Instead I just get shut down at Christmas when I respond to, “How are you?” with, “Not sleeping well, not eating well,” and when asked why, respond honestly with, “Concerned about my and my loved ones’ safety under the upcoming authoritarian regime.”
Everyone else at the table: Knows exactly what I’m talking about. Offers understanding and support
Mom, and only Mom: “Hey we shouldn’t talk about politics at a party, it makes people uncomfortable.”
Everyone else at the table: Acquiesces
I mean, we picked the discussion back up as soon as she left to go home, but it’s still disheartening to know that my mom would rather appeal to “not offending” imaginary people who aren’t even at the table, than to listen to the valid concerns that threaten her own child. Even my dad came up to me after this and offered tangible support. It’s just my mom, my “apolitical” mom who truly believes “bOtH siDeS sAmE” and refuses to entertain the slightest political thought.
It doesn’t surprise me that fascism is winning, when I consider that there are millions of people across the U.S. who view “politics” through the same lens she does.