Comment on If I’m mostly attracted to men, is it «wrong» to consider myself pan?
serpineslair@lemmy.world 1 day agoRight-on spankmonkey! Great way of explaining it. I’m gonna be a dick, though, and take things a step further. I don’t see the need for asexual either. Surely that means you have a low sex drive, and prefer to judge people based on personality. What do you think?
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Asexual people have zero drive, the to the point that they only have sex because of either trying to fit into social expectations or because they are in a relationship where they are trying to meet their partner’s drive. They personally are not sexually attracted to anyone.
None is different from the categories of (in general) opposite, same, and all.
On that note, even things like straight are fuzzy because a man being attracted to a very feminine man in drag can consider themselves straight or not depending on whether they see someone as a woman because of presentation or genitalia or a combination of both. But not being sexually attracted to anyone or not having a sex drive at all is significantly different and is worth including.
AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 1 day ago
Asexual here. Perfect explanation. 😊
serpineslair@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Thanks for your insight 🙂.
AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 1 day ago
No problem! :)
howrar@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Asexuality isn’t about sex drive. It’s a question of where you direct sexual desires. If it’s not directed at anyone (whether it’s because it’s non-existent, because it’s undirected, or it’s directed at fictional characters or objects), then that’s asexual. Apparently, non-asexual people experience this thing where they see someone attractive and get a “I want to have sex with this specific person” feeling.
serpineslair@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Yup, that makes sense. You’re right. Thanks.