Comment on Blahaj? I'd be curious what led to this decision.

wesker@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• algorithmae@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  A wise man of our time once declared, “I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude, we’re all dudes hey”

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  • MoonElf@hexbear.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    oh a wise man said that huh how surprising!

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  • wesker@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    You can’t say that, bro.

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• hitmyspot@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It may not be a gendered term for you, but it is for some. Standing your ground means being asked to stop by people who found it offensive, likely by feeling misgendered. I’m not surprised you were banned when you go to what’s meant to be a safe space and misgender people despite being asked to stop.

  That’s kind of the point of federation, though. They can have their space with their rules of moderation and language. Someone else can have a more open experience. Those that want a more complete experience but push their values on other instances will be banned from those instances. Blahaj has great content, but it’s often niche, and can be a little too moderated sometimes, but better to err on side of caution when many of the community have less ptions for where they jump to.

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  • ChairmanMeow@programming.dev ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I don’t entirely agree with this.

    banned when you go to what’s meant to be a safe space

    He said he wasn’t in a thread on Blahaj. He was just on Lemmy.

    misgender people despite being asked to stop

    But if he considers dude gender neutral (which is a fairly common view), then he didn’t misgender anyone. Straight from Wikipedia:

    In the early 1960s, dude became prominent in surfer culture as a synonym of guy or fella. The female equivalent was “dudette” or “dudess”, but these have both fallen into disuse and “dude” is now also used as a unisex term. This more general meaning of “dude” started creeping into the mainstream in the mid-1970s.

    So it seems he was falsely accused of misgendering someone, and when he clarified how he uses slang, said use wasn’t respected.

    Ofc I haven’t seen his actual comment and it’s entirely possible he was a total dick about it, but based on his explanation I feel it’s a bit of an overreaction to moderate him.

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    • hitmyspot@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I interpreted differently. I assumed the thread was on blahaj but was not a meta thread about blahaj. However, you’re probably right.

      If they were on another instance and just had a disagreement with a blahaj user about the term, then I’d say that’s over moderation to block them unless they were being abusive, or a dick about it.

      I could also see how a mod could block him and accidentally block him from the instance if it was a year ago as mod tools weren’t great. Although I don’t use them.

      However, as you say, depending on what the comments were, it could be the blahaj user was the one being the dick here.

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  • wesker@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Standing your ground means being asked to stop by people who found it offensive, likely by feeling misgendered. I’m not surprised you were banned when you go to what’s meant to be a safe space and misgender people despite being asked to stop.

    None of what you just said actually happened, though.

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    • hitmyspot@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Great, do you want to clarify what happened? I’m sure it was innocuous, but it may not have been, from their perspective.

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  • _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    They just said they didn’t say it on Blahaj.

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    • hitmyspot@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Yes, my interpretation of what they said was that it wasn’t a meta posts, but I agree, it was likely on a different instance. However, I also asked for clarityabout what was said and the user hasn’t clarified. I couldn’t find the comments they were talking about in their history of their first weeks. I did see other bans, from beehaw, but generally a pretty normal post history.

      So, the mystery remains.

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• _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  There are people on blahaj who will throw a fit if you use gender neutral terms in public without knowing what pronouns a person uses, so I wouldn’t let it bother you.

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• 3dmvr@lemm.ee ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  All my friends must hate me, they’re all dudes in my eyes

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