Blahaj? I'd be curious what led to this decision.

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• wesker@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I got banned from blahaj on my first week here, because I think “dude” isn’t necessarily a gendered term, and was willing to stand my ground on it.

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  • algorithmae@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    A wise man of our time once declared, “I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude, we’re all dudes hey”

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    • MoonElf@hexbear.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      oh a wise man said that huh how surprising!

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    • wesker@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      You can’t say that, bro.

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  • hitmyspot@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    It may not be a gendered term for you, but it is for some. Standing your ground means being asked to stop by people who found it offensive, likely by feeling misgendered. I’m not surprised you were banned when you go to what’s meant to be a safe space and misgender people despite being asked to stop.

    That’s kind of the point of federation, though. They can have their space with their rules of moderation and language. Someone else can have a more open experience. Those that want a more complete experience but push their values on other instances will be banned from those instances. Blahaj has great content, but it’s often niche, and can be a little too moderated sometimes, but better to err on side of caution when many of the community have less ptions for where they jump to.

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    • ChairmanMeow@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      I don’t entirely agree with this.

      banned when you go to what’s meant to be a safe space

      He said he wasn’t in a thread on Blahaj. He was just on Lemmy.

      misgender people despite being asked to stop

      But if he considers dude gender neutral (which is a fairly common view), then he didn’t misgender anyone. Straight from Wikipedia:

      In the early 1960s, dude became prominent in surfer culture as a synonym of guy or fella. The female equivalent was “dudette” or “dudess”, but these have both fallen into disuse and “dude” is now also used as a unisex term. This more general meaning of “dude” started creeping into the mainstream in the mid-1970s.

      So it seems he was falsely accused of misgendering someone, and when he clarified how he uses slang, said use wasn’t respected.

      Ofc I haven’t seen his actual comment and it’s entirely possible he was a total dick about it, but based on his explanation I feel it’s a bit of an overreaction to moderate him.

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    • wesker@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Standing your ground means being asked to stop by people who found it offensive, likely by feeling misgendered. I’m not surprised you were banned when you go to what’s meant to be a safe space and misgender people despite being asked to stop.

      None of what you just said actually happened, though.

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    • _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      They just said they didn’t say it on Blahaj.

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  • _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    There are people on blahaj who will throw a fit if you use gender neutral terms in public without knowing what pronouns a person uses, so I wouldn’t let it bother you.

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  • 3dmvr@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    All my friends must hate me, they’re all dudes in my eyes

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• entropicdrift@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Interestingly, they list us as a linked instance, so the block is from our side for some reason

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• Blaze@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Oh wow, new drama incoming

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• pieguy@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Appears unblocked now!

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  • Blaze@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    The admin monitoring this thread 👀

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• qaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  For anyone curious about what happened; the admin seems to have made a mistake while handling my report. I suspect the person currently handling the situation is unfamiliar with the workings of Lemmy.

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• PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Like 75% of my feed is Blahaj users. Glad it’s been reversed but I’m still curious as to why it happened 😳

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• secret300@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  WTH. I joined this instance because it didn’t block anyone.

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  • Blaze@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    lemmy.today/instances could be for you

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• Draconic_NEO@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  What the fuck? Why? Why block Blahaj of all instances? That really doesn’t inspire confidence in this server or SDF. I can understand blocking instances like lemmygrad or hexbear, but blahaj? Seriously? Why?

  I’m glad they reversed it, but why was it done in the first place?

  @SDF@lemmy.sdf.org Can you please explain? I really want to know the reasoning behind such a decision to block specifically lemmy.blahaj.zone? Was it a bug with something automated? Something prompted by suspicious behavior from them? Please explain.

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  • Blaze@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    The plot thickens

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    • user224@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Are you a real person?

      You’re replying ultra fast on many different threads. Multiple people? AI? Caffeine? Cocaine? xD

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• pieguy@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I presume a little parting gift from our new “friend”?

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• lambalicious@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Looking at the various recent mishaps, like this one, I’m two steps from offering my services as an instance admin. Or would be, if I wasn’t already busy with a half-time job and the other half of the time wasn’t trying to have a social life.

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• secret300@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Why is kbin.cafe blocked? When I go to that link it’s just an nginx proxy

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