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KomfortablesKissen@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

Your assumption is yours to make, I was being deliberately ambiguous. My point was “men like murdering” sounds like a fact, but isn’t. Just as “women lie” sounds like a fact, but isn’t.

the difference is your generalization isn’t based in statistical fact.

The OP isn’t, either. There is no difference. Both are damaging overgeneralizations. Even though more women (because its easier) do lie (again, ambiguous. Can be about how their food tasted) way more often than men do murder, both are damaging overgeneralizations. One more than the other.

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it’s statistically common enough

You are referencing statistics. For the second time. Provide them.

you are harming women by doing this.

No, you just feel like that. Me arguing that I don’t want to be called a murderer because of my penis is not a downplay of rape. You did that part all on your own.

it does not harm men to point out what a significant enough amount of them to be dangerous to women at large are doing.

That’s a lie. Also, how does that fit in with me harming women by pointing something out? We are talking about the sentence “men like murder”, which is rightfully being under fire. You could say this is a shitpost, but your comment is not.

you are not personally affected by women saying that men are violent or murderers

Lie. Here you also try to justify the post as the truth. Just for future reference.

but women are personally affected by your exaggerated claims of dishonesty

How? And how am I not affected by you denying my experience?

violence that they are statistically far more likely to experience.

Are you talking about rape or murder? If you talk about murder, like the OP, that’s again a lie.

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_lunar@lemmy.ml ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
You, in particular, are not being called a murderer, because the OP clearly says “men” and not “all men.” You are however contributing to the problem by being dismissive and making a discussion about women’s safety about you, which is why women should be afraid of you since you are clearly self-serving and have no empathy for and understanding of their plight.

Please explain to me how women talking about violence from men affects you personally. I can tell you how exaggerating your claim is harmful toward women, since because of the disproportionate violence and sexual abuse they face from men, they often find themselves having to speak on their experiences, and often aren’t believed thanks to unfounded biases like yours.

The difference is that your claim is grossly exaggerated to appear equal to the OP’s claim, which actually has statistic validity. The OP’s only mistake is specifying murder, which isn’t the only threat of violence at the hands of men a woman would potentially (and has a good chance of having to) face walking alone at night, but anyone who isn’t 12 should be able to understand the use of hyperbole in a motherfucking shitpost. The intention is clear. it is not safe for women because of violence from men.

Here are the statistics: rainn.org/statistics/scope-problem, ucr.fbi.gov/crime-in-the-u.s/2019/…/table-42.xls, statista.com/…/murder-offenders-in-the-us-by-gend…

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- Fleur_@lemm.ee ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  You are using statistics inappropriately. You don’t understand the argument you are just trying to villainise men
  
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  - _lunar@lemmy.ml ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    whatever helps you sleep at night bro
    
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- KomfortablesKissen@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  You are being disingenuous again. Because you keep piling up new things and also because:
  
  You, in particular, are not being called a murderer, because the OP clearly says “men” and not “all men.”.
  
  If that were the case, why did you find fault at the assumed statement of “women lie about rape”? I didn’t say “all”. If you believed what you just wrote to be true, you wouldn’t have brought this up. The OP was a blanket statement that included me. For nothing other than having a penis. Also, don’t forget that one comment that implied this to me directly.
  
  You are however contributing to the problem by being dismissive and making a discussion about women’s safety about you
  
  Yeah, no. Learn how to make a discussion without accusations, like the accusation that was done in the OP, and then you can argue that. I realize you didn’t make the initial accusation, but you are defending it, and are also trying to make it into a “woman experience” which should somehow make it above reproach. That’s low.
  
  which is why women should be afraid of you since you are clearly self-serving and have no empathy for and understanding of their plight.
  
  Defending myself being called a murderer is self-serving and makes me without empathy and women should be afraid of me. What?
  
  Please explain to me how women talking about violence from men affects you personally.
  
  Oh, depends. If a friend asks for help in a current situation I can lend a helping hand. If a friend experienced something like this I can lend an ear and a shoulder. On the internet I can at least listen. And I do.
  
  In this case someone was accusing me of being a murderer for having a penis, and you keep telling me that that’s not what’s happening. If you want to be listened to by me you need to tone down the accusations. To zero. Except if I did something, then I will take the blame. But I didn’t, so I won’t.
  
  I can tell you how exaggerating your claim is harmful toward women, since because of the disproportionate violence and sexual abuse they face from men, they often find themselves having to speak on their experiences, and often aren’t believed thanks to unfounded biases like yours.
  
  Then don’t exaggerate it. What does that have to do with me? Also, you are cultivating a bias in me right now, not unfounded. It does only include you, in case that makes you feel better.
  
  The difference is that your claim is grossly exaggerated to appear equal to the OP’s claim, which actually has statistic validity
  
  It is not, because the OP has none. Even though men murder women more often than women murder women (which is a statistical truth), this isn’t what was stated in the OP. “Men love to commit murder” was the OP. There is no fact stated. Definitely not a statistically backed one.
  
  The OP’s only mistake is specifying murder, which isn’t the only threat of violence at the hands of men a woman would potentially (and has a good chance of having to) face walking alone at night, but anyone who isn’t 12 should be able to understand the use of hyperbole in a motherfucking shitpost.
  
  The OP made many mistakes which qualified it as a proper shitpost. I am not condemning that, I just don’t like it, as stated. I am condemning you.
  
  The intention is clear. it is not safe for women because of violence from men.
  
  That is the intended feeling, yes. Incredibly bad delivery, a shitpost even, but yeah that’s it. Feel free to feel, I guess.
  
  Put the statistics into the relevant parts of your comment next time. I won’t build your argument for you.
  
  This will be my last reply in this particular thread. I guess anyone reading won’t be reading the essays we wrote, and I’m feeling you are arguing in bad faith here. Have a nice day.
  
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  - _lunar@lemmy.ml ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    
    If that were the case, why did you find fault at the assumed statement of “women lie about rape”? I didn’t say “all”. If you believed what you just wrote to be true, you wouldn’t have brought this up. The OP was a blanket statement that included me. For nothing other than having a penis. Also, don’t forget that one comment that implied this to me directly
    
    because while saying “men” does not imply all men, the implication persists that it’s an issue coming from men as a demographic predominantly, which is a fact backed up by evidence. your accusation that women lie about their experiences has no basis in fact. it’s just a vibes-based point used by incels to discredit women speaking out against the horrors they face from, get this, MEN.
    
    the whole point of this post and what every dumbass man in this thread seems to be missing is that murder and other forms of violence are mostly coming from one particular demographic, men. not any other demographic, and that’s why we single out men in particular. not because all men are doing it, but because men in general are doing it compared to everyone else. women don’t have to walk the streets in fear of women and i’m sure you understand that well.
    
    i suppose when people talk about systemic racism being upheld by the police you come in and go “well not all cops are like that” as if that adds anything to the discussion at hand.
    
    Defending myself being called a murderer is self-serving and makes me without empathy and women should be afraid of me. What?
    
    in your initial post that i replied to, you were complaining that you’ve been equated to a murderer because someone told you “You are the man we are afraid of.” the reason for that is because you’ve come into a thread about women’s negative (and factual) experiences due to the violence of men, and tried to make it about your precious fee-fees. this happens in every single discussion women have about what they face online, men always come in and try to steer the conversation away from the original topic and make it about men. men who do this kind of thing show no empathy or compassion for what women face, and yes, that’s indeed frightening.
    
    Then don’t exaggerate it. What does that have to do with me? Also, you are cultivating a bias in me right now, not unfounded. It does only include you, in case that makes you feel better.
    
    my claims are not exaggerated because they’re backed up by evidence that suggests violence against women from men is a significantly large occurrence, large enough that women in general have to fear for their safety. like i said before, you’re drawing a false equivalency by comparing it to your claim that “women lie.” these are not equal issues in scope at all.
    
    It is not, because the OP has none. Even though men murder women more often than women murder women (which is a statistical truth), this isn’t what was stated in the OP. “Men love to commit murder” was the OP. There is no fact stated. Definitely not a statistically backed one.
    
    yup, it was written in a way that’s humorous and hyperbolic but the point was only lost on the dweebs in this thread who have no first-hand experience with what she’s talking about. i couldn’t say if the men who commit murder “love” to do it, but the fact remains that men do it, more than any other demographic, which is what the post is clearly trying to convey. i’m not sure how else you would interpret it unless you’re just being pedantic. “yeah, men are committing all these murderers, but have you considered that they don’t actually love to do it like the OP said? :smuglord:” <- this is you
    
    That is the intended feeling, yes. Incredibly bad delivery, a shitpost even, but yeah that’s it. Feel free to feel, I guess. yadda yadda yadda bad faith whatever
    
    so you do understand the intention then, good. frankly, any shitpost that makes misogynists show their asses is a quality shitpost in my book. i haven’t been arguing in bad faith. i genuinely still stand by my point of view and while i don’t expect to convince any of the salty dudebros in this thread that they’re being problematic, i hope at least i can contribute a little bit to preventing the flow of disinformation, fallacies, and downright lies that make up MRA talking points. have a nice day.
    
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