If you have an iPhone, it’s a pain over Tailscale because Tailscale frequently likes to disconnect for various reasons and this isn’t something Tailscale can fix, it’s something with the way Apple manages background processes.

If you’d like an alternative, you can host your services directly to the internet via a reverse proxy like Caddy or Nginx, and then use mTLS to secure that access with a certificate you load only onto your devices.