My recommendations for anime that don’t have any of the creepy sexualisation to the best of my memory:

• Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood (no creepy sexualisation stuff, but it does have gore and very heavy themes related to genocide, oppressive governments, body horror, general death and loss. It is very lighthearted and wholesome at times, creating a tonal whiplash effect that a lot of fans love it for)

• Frieren: Beyond Journey’s End (probably one of the most wholesome animes out there. There’s one scene where a character tries to gift another character a “potion that dissolves clothes,” but it’s treated as inappropriate by the other characters and it doesn’t end up getting used for creepy fanservice)

• Attack on Titan (like FMAB above it has gore and very heavy themes related to genocide etc. but unlike FMAB it’s almost never lighthearted. I honestly don’t recall anything related to sex even being mentioned in this one aside from characters telling each other raunchy jokes or alluding to relationships they have. The tone remains tense and serious for nearly the entire runtime)

• Cowboy Bebop (just an incredibly fun space western)

That’s what I can come up with off the top of my head, but there’s loads more I’m forgetting for sure.