chuso

@chuso@kbin.social

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My friend's boyfriend's therapist said that he is an abuser who is trying to look like the victim. What does this mean?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, there are red flags there IMHO.

  You know, I've seen similar behaviours so many times from people that they tell you how many problems they have and they kind of put the burden on you to deal with their problems. I don't mean you cannot be supportive of them if they really have problems they are trying to fix, but you shouldn't be dealing with someone else's problems if they don't want to do anything about them themselves.

  I usually listen to them, tell them that I understand they are going through hard times and that I understand how tough that is being for them and all that supportive stuff... and then I tell them to go to therapy.

  We cannot be someone else's therapists. Unless, you know, we are actual therapists. And even in that case, they would have to go through one of our formal therapies. I don't think even therapists get into relationships with someone just to fix them.

  Some people will take the advice and consider getting help while others will not even consider it because they just want to take you hostage of their emotions. It's not worth putting any much more effort into someone who is apparently crying for help but doesn't really want to make any change and just wants to manipulate you instead.

  And punching other people? Yeah, I don't care how "honourable" his reasons were, that's also a red flag.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why doesn't Egypt open its borders to Gaza?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I know you are not suggesting that seriously, but if we were to consider that seriously, I don't it would work.
  Palestine (and more concretely Jerusalem) is considered the Holy Land by Judaism, Islam and Christianity. That's why the state of Israel was created there and not somewhere else. And that's why Palestinians wouldn't receive with a lot of enthusiasm the idea of being given a state of their own somewhere else.
  A big part of the conflict is a "holy war" thing about who controls the Holy Land.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What’s the deal with Western Sahara?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Another Spaniard here, for the record.

  I wouldn't say it's like Palestine, there are relevant differences between both cases. The basis of the Palestinian conflict and the reason why two states were created were mostly religious and ethnic. I don't think any of that plays a significant role in the Saharan case and it's all down to Moroccan expansionism and access to oil reserves in the Saharan sea.
  In the Palestinian case, it was a former British colony that was being decolonized and tensions between two communities living in that territory led to the current situation. I'm not going into the details because it would be too long, you can just go to Wikipedia.
  In the Saharan case, it was a Spanish former colony which, in the process of being decolonized, was invaded by a neighbouring country for political and economic reasons.

  You are basically saying Western Sahara ended up in this situation because Spain abandoned it unattending the UN's mandate to decolonize it. That's not true and I wonder how you can talk about the current situation in Western Sahara without even mentioning Morocco.
  Spain was indeed attending the UN's mandate to decolonize it as it did with Equatorial Guinea a few years before, which is an independent country nowadays. But both Mauritania and Morocco had aspirations on Western Sahara and wouldn't accept an independent Sahara, so taking advantage of one moment of political weakness in Spain with the dictator retired to die, Morocco invaded Western Sahara and mainland Spain was more concerned about their internal issues and was not in the position to defend the Sahara against Moroccan invasion.

  Mauritania eventually gave up on their aspirations on Sahara and that's how we ended up in the current situation with a Morocco-occupied Sahara with a self-proclaimed government that fights back against the occupation with very little support (other than Algeria) because Morocco has much stronger diplomatic ties.

  The current situation, de jure, is that Western Sahara is a Spanish former colony in the process of being decolonized.
  But de facto, it's a territory governed by Morocco and disputed with the Polisario Front, which was already fighting against Spanish occupation before Moroccan one and has declared an independent Republic which has very little recognition.
  De jure, Spain would be continuing the decolonization process, but that's not realistic when the territory has been occupied by Morocco for half a century.

  It's true, however, that this is not an issue that raises a lot of interest currently in Spain for anything else than playing internal politics.
  Also, Morocco and Spain have a lot of common interests so Spain is very careful to not upset Morocco with this topic. On the other hand, Algeria is the biggest supporter of the Polisarian cause and another Spanish strategic ally and probably the reason why Spain hasn't fully abandoned yet the Saharan cause. So Spain usually tries to play a low profile on this trying to balance their position between not upsetting Morocco and not upsetting Algeria.

  For more details, Wikipedia is still your friend: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_March

  And the former Spanish king being a CIA agent? Yeah, I don't think it's even worth to add any comment to that.

  And, of course, when I say "Spain", "Morocco", "Algeria", etc., I am referring to the regime that rules the country at that moment.
  I'm not trying to imply that every Moroccan or Algerian is responsible for what their rulers do the same way that a lot of Spaniards were not Franco supporters by that time.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  LGBTQ+ laws and labour laws are very different across countries, so it's very difficult to talk generally about how this works without being specific to some country.

  I will talk about Spain because there's where I am from and where I worked most of the time.
  You generally just cannot fire someone for arbitrary reasons before their contract comes to an end. You really have to justify why you need to fire that person, like having several poor performance reviews against them. Otherwise, you may risk having your firing judged as "unjustified" and having to pay that person a big compensation or even the firing being judged as void and having to readmit them to the position you fired them from.
  No matter whether they are cis, gay, straight, man, woman, POC or whatever, you just cannot fire someone without a valid reason unless their contract has come to an end and you don't renew it, that's basically it.

  So could someone argue that your sexual orientation or gender identity is a valid reason to fire you because being gay doesn't fit within their company culture or having trans people may cause them an image problem?

  No, article 4.2.c of the Worker's Statue says you cannot be discrimanted for employment based on sexual orientation or gender identity, among other criteria like ethnicity, age, union membership, etc.
  So you couldn't be fired for being either gay or straight, man or woman, cis or trans, etc. Nothing of that is a valid reason to be fired.