Izzgo
@Izzgo@kbin.social
- Comment on How do I stop wanting to be on a relationship? 7 months ago:
Lots of people have relationships where they never live together, and see each other a few times a week. They go along like this for years, decades even. I knew one pair that didn't even live in the same country. What I think you want is a relationship but not a live-in partner. Just make sure you are dating people who want the same kind of relationship as you do, basically a permanent long distance relationship.
- Comment on AI Is Driving More Layoffs Than Companies Want to Admit 9 months ago:
I'm 70 years old. I remember as a school child learning that advanced technology would give us more time off. Maybe instead of a 40 hour work week standard, it would be 35 or even 30. HA! It wasn't supposed to be UNPAID time off.
- Comment on How do you refer to the lgbtq+ "community" least excludingly? 9 months ago:
"Gay" is either gendered or not the same way that "guy" and "dude" are either gendered or not.
- Comment on How do you refer to the lgbtq+ "community" least excludingly? 9 months ago:
I want to stop my boomer coworkers from hurting LGTBQ people
As a 70 year old lesbian, I'd like to suggest you might find some more allies in your organization, please don't assume all boomers are bigots. I have many grey haired allies. I doubt you're as alone as you think you are, but maybe you're just more "out" than they are. Give them the chance to come out and join you.
- Comment on How do you refer to the lgbtq+ "community" least excludingly? 9 months ago:
“respect my trans homies, or I’ll identify as a fucking problem”
LOL I LOVE this!! Maybe you could change it to “respect my trans homies, or I’ll identify as a ducking problem” or "pucking froblem".
As a 70 year old lesbian, one thing I've long believed and believe now more than ever is that the most radical thing anyone in the queer community has ever done is simply come out in their daily life. Then live their life as an out person, whatever they are out as, and to the greatest extent possible. So to you, thank you for coming out as an ally, and I hope you do so loudly and daily. It can take courage.
Queer is a great umbrella term, but it still originates fairly recently as a hated slur, which suggests queer people have more right to use it than not-so-queers. Thirty five years ago I was friends with a lesbian couple in their 60s who HATED the term dyke, and were highly perturbed when I joyfully embraced being a dyke.
- Comment on Can I just convert to Judaism tomorrow and get a free vacation to Israel? 9 months ago:
there’s easier ways to tour the Middle East - and I’d include joining the Marines in that.
That gave me a nice chuckle, thanks.
- Comment on OpenAI Quietly Deletes Ban on Using ChatGPT for “Military and Warfare” 10 months ago:
Do you mean on social media overall?
- Comment on Have companies that claim to anonymize the data gathered on individuals ever been independently audited to verify that? 10 months ago:
GREAT question thanks for posting it.
- Comment on Can social media and short-form content cause hypertension? 10 months ago:
Your English is mostly perfect, but (and as someone who tries, like you, to speak another language correctly):
Could it be that not only these platforms are harmful in mental health and privacy but also physical health?
should be
Could it be that not only are these platforms harmful in mental health and privacy but also physical health?
The change in location of the word are is what makes it a grammatically correct question rather than a statement.
To me, I think the primary harm to our physical health IS the impact on our mental health, which is a physical health. To say nothing of neglecting our physical bodies by being so sedentary.
- Comment on Is there a difference between customers/consumers? 10 months ago:
The difference is the relationship. A business has customers. The economy has consumers.
- Comment on Are MRNA vaccines any riskier than other vaccines? 10 months ago:
Good point about new risky thing lol! And I so firmly don't want covid that, to my knowledge I haven't had it. And I rather desperately don't want long covid. THAT concern drives me more than simple covid. I'm cautious enough that people make fun of me, but too bad.
- Comment on Are MRNA vaccines any riskier than other vaccines? 10 months ago:
The logical issue your friend is ignoring is that the disease (covid) is proven to be highly dangerous. The vaccine might be slightly dangerous (depending on who you believe). But clearly there are no remotely credible claims of hordes of people dropping dead of mRNA vaccines like there are for covid. So just from a lesser risk stand point, your friend should get the vaccine.
- Comment on Are MRNA vaccines any riskier than other vaccines? 10 months ago:
A lot of people are afraid of new things they don’t understand. The hope is that people realize that the fear is irrational and listen to experts in the relevant field.
That would be me, highly reluctant to try the new possibly risky thing until many other people have done it. But I DO realize my fear is (mostly) irrational, so after a bit I gather my courage and do the thing anyway. For covid mRNA vaccines, I skipped the first round, and watched the news carefully for word of people dropping dead. It didn't happen, so I caught the second round of vaccines in my area about a month later. I was still afraid, but considered it my civic duty to reduce the spread to the greatest degree in my ability. And since then I've got every "booster" I was eligible for. As an old person, I'm eligible among the first, lol.
I'm not convinced there aren't some under reported risks to the vaccine. But I still consider it my civic duty to help prevent the spread of something much riskier, covid.
- Comment on How to get rid of blood stains from paper? 11 months ago:
I would probably take a q-tip and dab at the blood with a tiny bit of hydrogen peroxide. It might bleach out any color, so only do that if the paper underneath is white. Really don't use much, and perhaps test first in some less important area of the notebook.
- Comment on Is there something that helps digest a cheese pizza? 11 months ago:
Even actual digestion, breaking down with enzymes, starts in the mouth. The more you chew, the more digestion has already started before it hits your poor overworked stomach. And pizza works the stomach hard!
- Comment on [deleted] 11 months ago:
Personally, I feel it's the proper job of a mod to decide what kind of a community they want to foster, establish their rules to reflect those goals, and enforce accordingly. Not every online space has to be a wild frontier allowing the worst of online behavior. Furthermore, any person who wants such a wild frontier community on reddit or here is certainly free to make that community. If enough people enjoy hanging out with that behavior, then your community will be a success. And THAT is actual freedom of speech: make your community the way you like it, and see how many other people want to hang out with you. I promise, if I visit your community, I won't complain about being offended or aggravated.
Most of my experience with people complaining about lack of freedom of speech have tried to force their wild frontier self expressions onto spaces where civil speech is enforced or the topics to be discussed are tightly defined.
- Comment on I feel like I need a separate body towel (big towel), and 3 other small towels for hair, face, and hands. 4 towels in total. Is that normal? 11 months ago:
This sounds like it might be an OCD thing, especially given your reasoning. Do you you have other OCD like habits? OCD is relentless once it gets ahold of you, and can have seriously negative effects for both yourself and your loved ones. The earlier you address it, the easier it is to keep it from ruling your life.
- Comment on Can willpower be trained ? 1 year ago:
I had never heard of ego depletion, and after looking it up frankly I think, outside of psychology, the idea is at best misinformation, to the point of disinformation. Not something to incorporate into your life beliefs. From Wikipedia;
Ego depletion is the controversial idea that self-control or willpower draws upon a limited pool of mental resources that can be used up. When the energy for mental activity is low, self-control is typically impaired, which would be considered a state of ego depletion.
As a self sufficient Boomer, that sounds too much like shooting yourself in the foot. Maybe it's a symptom of a mental disease/weakness, which is why it might be useful to psychologists. Maybe the ego needs to be repleted, if it's depleted. But rather than believe you start the day with a limited amount of will power, start your day by giving yourself a boost. Tell yourself what you can do, rather than what you can't.
So I stand by my original comment, flippant as it was. Don't buy into bullshit. If you are hanging out (real life or online) in places where the attitude is that we're each limited in what we can accomplish, then you should hang out elsewhere. How can you reach for the stars if you're convinced you don't have what it takes?
Yeah there are things that are legitimately hard to do. Excruciatingly hard sometimes. Overcoming hardships makes you stronger. Believing you only have so much "will" does not.
- Comment on Can willpower be trained ? 1 year ago:
I have heard that willpower is finite and every person starts their day with a limited capacity.
Time for a new source of information. Whoever told you that is wildly incorrect.
- Comment on Where did the abbreviation "w/" for "with" come from? 1 year ago:
I learned similar shorthand from an accountant, who wrote transfer (money transfer between accounts) as tx.
- Comment on Where did the abbreviation "w/" for "with" come from? 1 year ago:
And OK is initialism for okay.
- Comment on Is there a community where I can post anything in case I don't find the appropriate community for it? 1 year ago:
- Comment on Amazon coupons: what's the story? 1 year ago:
The entity liable wants to know that the coupon was the thing that pushed you over the edge to buy the product. People who would have bought it anyways generally don’t bother with the coupon.
I never knew the part about an entity separate from the seller being responsible for the coupons, interesting. But the second sentence I quoted is what I'm responding to. Coupons in brick-and-mortar stores may work like that, and I'm a good example of a person who rarely bothers with coupons if I'm already buying it. But in that case it takes pretty substantial effort to use the coupon. You have to keep track of it, often it's good for a specific time frame in the future....those coupons are a real pain. But Amazon coupons, where you just check the box? I use it every time it's offered. Whatever the entity is getting or learning from my use of coupons on Amazon is very different from usage in real life, and seems like a negligible gain.
- Comment on What happens when people die with metal on or on them? 1 year ago:
That's a delightful answer. My wife, who got a pacemaker this past spring, laughed out loud. Thank you!
- Comment on [deleted] 1 year ago:
Maybe I will just say “I don't know enough to have a stance”
This is an amazing attitude, one more of us would be wise to adopt.
- Comment on Bike Riders of lemmy, you okay with me riding my eScooter in the bike lane? 1 year ago:
To me, the key is remembering that slower traffic belongs on the right (in the US at least). So pay attention to traffic around you, travel on the vehicle side of the road rather than facing oncoming cars, and if you're passing then pass on the left (in the US) .
- Comment on What is the attraction to kids? 1 year ago:
To me there is a clear difference between children, and teens say 16+. It is both morally wrong and unnatural to be attracted to prepubescent children, and this is pedophilia. But basically, by definition puberty makes people become sexually attractive, and it's natural for adults to be attracted. Still morally wrong to act on those attractions unless you're in about the same stage of puberty or early adulthood. That's when we rely on a strong moral code and laws in society to protect youngsters who have recently gone through puberty. And hopefully even after the laws no longer apply, we have enough societal pressure to strongly discourage wide age gaps between sexual partners.
- Comment on Indian-Mexican wedding gift 1 year ago:
I agree about a German or Polish item; such a good chance for a bit of international flair. I don't know anything about Poland, but I spent time in Germany a long time ago. My mind went to cuckoo clocks for fun, and other fine and classy looking clocks (I brought home a chime clock that I loved). Could be towels embroidered in a traditionally Polish way. Or a set of Polish or German stemware.
- Comment on What does it mean to "get low" or "drop it down"? 1 year ago:
New word to me, thank you. And apparently, in animals which display that behavior, it is reflexive, not a voluntary action. But a point of interest from your article:
Lordosis behavior is non-functional in humans, although lordosis-like positions can be observed in those being mounted from behind.
So therefore, while twerking mimics lordosis, it's really just dancing, albeit rather sexually.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 year ago:
I want to know where in the world you are that LGBTQ+ is specifically protected, rather than rather than the protections being applied to sexuality and gender as a whole? In other words, do you know what you are talking about?