N0t_5ure
@N0t_5ure@lemmy.world
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Context is everything. Sure, men are more aggressive and women will definitely get some unwanted attention. People often think that as a consequence, women don’t want to be approached by men in public. However, if you dig deeper, women don’t mind being approached, so long it is done by someone they want to be approached by. It is the reality captured by the “Hello, Human Resources” meme.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
I think it may be a little more complex than this. I’m a man that was quite good looking in my youth. I got fat and ugly in middle age, and became invisible to women. Now, at 60, I’m in the best physical shape of my life, have largely recovered my looks, I dress nicely, and am blown away about how differently I am treated by women now, especially women over 40. I regularly get compliments about my appearance, and due to the halo effect I seem to collect compliments on nearly everything I do. Having been invisible to women for more than a decade, it feels a little strange to be showered with attention.
That said, not every woman wants the same thing from me, but they do all seem to want my attention, including married women, oddly enough. They want to feel pretty, feel desired, even if they aren’t going to act on those feelings. I frequently get women showing clear signs of interest (intentionally putting themselves in my orbit, mirroring my behavior, initiating physical touch, etc., etc.) in an effort to draw a response from me, even women who are not in a position to follow through on their actions. These are not women just being kind or benignly friendly. Here is one recent example. I was at a friend’s birthday party, and was approached by a woman I had met in dance class. She was moderately flirty during the the course of our conversation, and asked if I were seeing anyone, as she had noted seeing me regularly with one of my female friends. Our conversation ended with her stating that she was looking forward to seeing me in class. At the next class, she wore a sexy black cocktail dress, which was a bit out of character for her. For me, she was showing clear and unmistakable signs of interest. However, when talking, she mentions her husband in passing, which made me wonder what the hell was going on. I later learned that her husband is in the late stages of pancreatic cancer. My takeaway from this experience is that she was trying to elicit my interest to bask in the glow of my male attention, and that she probably isn’t looking to step out on him (which is something that I wouldn’t engage with).
In the last 6 months, I’ve had many other similar experiences, where women are definitely seeking my attention in circumstances where they have no intention of following through. It feels good to be desired, whether you are a man or a woman, and if a woman is constantly drawing romantic interest “accidentally”, it’s worth it for her to consider what energy she is putting out.
- Comment on US | Trump Says He’ll Only Accept 2026 Midterms If He Deems Them “Honest” 2 weeks ago:
In a way, this is good news, as it shows that Trump is not confident in his control over the elections.
- Comment on Drug dealers hate this one weird trick! 3 weeks ago:
I use molasses to make water kefir, and saw that they sell bulk molasses for animals that is way cheaper. Didn’t have the nerve to pull the trigger though.
- Comment on He's not sure but he thinks he knows what she is shopping for 4 weeks ago:
She looks like she’s clearly in need of a neck massager.
- Comment on ICE’s Facial Recognition App Misidentified a Woman. Twice 5 weeks ago:
RealID is insufficient to confirm citizenship, yet a facial recognition app that is known to make errors is “definitive”? Sounds like racist bullshit to me.
- Comment on Glory to you and your ... hole? 5 weeks ago:
OP should repost this to c/tenforward
- Comment on Choosing to live fucking sucks sometimes 5 weeks ago:
I’m sorry you had to go through that, as nobody deserves it. Ironically, the person that began my harassment fell victim to it himself, and killed himself by stepping in front of a car. Apparently he could dish it out, but not take it when the psychopaths he engaged with turned it on him. “Lay down with dogs, get up with fleas” I guess.
- Comment on Choosing to live fucking sucks sometimes 5 weeks ago:
You may or may not find this useful, but I thought I’d share on the chance it might help. The people around you can have a tremendous impact on your mental health. I unfortunately had a malignant narcissist in my life that organized a mobbing campaign calculated to drive me to suicide. How was it done? Massive amounts of gaslighting to unmoor me from reality, heap stressors on me to overload, while those around me seeded the idea by constantly talking about suicide “if you want someone else to completely believe in your idea, you must make them believe that it was their own idea all along.” The strategy was fairly effective, and by the time I realized what was going on I was a wreck and had frequent suicidal ideation.
What stopped me was, like you, something inside telling me not to do it. This experience has completely reshaped how I view suicide, and I suspect that many others have been driven to suicide though similar means. What I did to get out of it was to sever ties with everyone involved, which basically meant severing ties virtually everyone in my life, including my family (they were involved), and rebuilding myself from the ground up. I started with physical improvement through exercise, as I was morbidly obese and had several related health issues. By focusing on small, incremental things that I did have control over, such as sleep, exercise, and nutrition, I was able to make useful changes to improve my life. You can’t change what other people do, but you can change what you do, and that can have an enormous impact on your life. While doing this, I was effectively in purgatory for 4 years while I rebuilt myself, and only last August did I begin to venture out to work on rebuilding my social life. It’s been a long haul, but I am so much happier now. I now have numerous real friends, an active social life, am in the best shape of my life, and am virtually unrecognizable to people who knew me before. The world is still in a shit place, and it will almost certainly get worse before it gets better, but focusing on things I can control and letting go of things out of my control I am in a much better place to deal with it all. Best of luck, and hang in there.
- Comment on Sold in Belgrade... 5 weeks ago:
“Looks like Nazis are back on the menu boys!”
- Comment on If it fits... 1 month ago:
Fair trade.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
NATO has already been destroyed. If Russia attacked a NATO country which then invoked article 5, do you think that the U.S. would come to their aid?
- Comment on The amount of sense NYE party glasses make has rapidly declined. 1 month ago:
For me this has been the worse year of this century
Worst year of this century so far…
- Comment on new trend 1 month ago:
A ‘reboot’ if you will…
- Comment on When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child 1 month ago:
Protip: you can spend thousands of dollars on ebay to buy adult things as well.
- Comment on My N64 game collection. Not the most expansive but it is a lot of fun. 2 months ago:
Ah, Goldeneye. Temple level, grenade launchers, 5 min play.
- Comment on YSK about Psyllium husk 2 months ago:
I’m sorry, but this does not compute…
- Comment on YSK about Psyllium husk 2 months ago:
True, but scroll through my comment history. I am a nerd, and I’m a bit formal in my wording (I’m an attorney), but if AI can engage like this I think we’re all in trouble.
- Comment on YSK about Psyllium husk 2 months ago:
Humans evolved consuming a high fiber diet, but the standard American diet of highly processed foods has little fiber. Fiber is extremely beneficial, and feeds the gut microbiome, with which we have a symbiotic relationship and which helps us make things like serotonin. Consuming a whole foods diet, boosting fiber intake with things like psyllium husk and inulin, and regularly consuming fermented foods will help maintain a healthy gut microbiome. Microbiome disbiosis is one of the hallmarks of aging, and can have a huge negative impact on your health.
- Comment on Hot tub 2 months ago:
“No Donald, I asked if you could blow bubbles!”
- Comment on Of course there is. 2 months ago:
Everything conservatives don’t like is “communism”.
- Comment on Click OK 2 months ago:
Dogs are into coprophagia, and they probably get some nutrients or beneficial bacteria or something from it, because it is instinctual. My parents dogs love to raid the litter box.
- Comment on Click OK 2 months ago:
The dog is just waiting for his next snack.
- Comment on AI Slop Is Ruining Reddit for Everyone 2 months ago:
The engagement bots constantly peppering my comments with inane remarks to draw a reaction is what drove me to Lemmy. I was there early on, and it was awesome. As its popularity grew, it became less nice, but I still enjoyed going there. In the end, I didn’t feel like commenting because I knew that I’d just get hit with stupid responses calculated to draw a response. It just felt harassing.
- Comment on Relationship Goals 2 months ago:
Too bad my ex-wife wasn’t an Indian Crested Porcupine…
- Comment on Crews Walk Out on Nashville Tunnel, Claiming Boring Company Failed to Pay Workers and Snubbed OSHA Concerns 2 months ago:
This is how jerks like Trump and Musk operate. They hire locals to do the work, knowing that they hold all the leverage. Then they withhold payment, usually asserting that something was wrong with the work. Then they litigate. Litigation is costly, and it’s easy to spend millions of dollars fighting legal battles, so the little guy is bullied into settling for a fraction of what was owed, because a full-on legal battle would likely wipe him out.
- Comment on Summoning the Beast of Big Pharma 2 months ago:
Yes, he’s definitely taking a rip.
- Comment on Americans are holding onto devices longer than ever and it’s costing the economy 2 months ago:
There is no need to upgrade devices every two years ago, which used to be the norm. A decade or more ago, each new generation of phone was a huge leap forward. Today, not so much. Maybe a marginally better camera or a touch more battery life, but nothing earth shattering, and the camera and battery life on my “ancient” Pixel 6 Pro are more than adequate for my needs. I’ll probably upgrade in the next year or so, to a used Pixel 9, because the price of them used has plummeted since the release of the Pixel 10, and the Pixel 6 is nearing the end of its support by GrapheneOS.
- Comment on SipsTea 2 months ago:
What should you do? Become president of France. Problem solved.
- Comment on ‘California sober’: marijuana may help you drink less, study finds 2 months ago:
It worked for me. I rarely touch alcohol these days, as it is so debilitating. A THC gummy or two puts me in a social mood for the whole evening.
