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- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
I can’t discount this very valid point :D
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
I’m sure the more cultural anthropologist types will have a more eloquent way of stating it, but the US has a hard time escaping it’s religious background, which views nudity as a gateway to sexuality, so people “must remained covered”.
And in the same way, if men are naked around each other, people are afraid of it being seen as a sexual thing. I mean non sexual nudity doesn’t really exist in “standard spaces” in my part of the country anyway.
And man, if an adult and young person were naked near each other, someone would call the cops!
I think Hollywood sexuality is exactly that, escapist fiction. The US is actually a pretty sexually repressed place.
You can sit around any bar and say “oh that girl is hot, I’d love to fuck her!” But you would get looks you’d get if you said “oh that girl is hot, I’d love if she pegged me!”
Maybe it’s changing, but it doesn’t really feel like it to me.
- Comment on Why do people think it’s selfish when I don’t get them things/ask about them? 1 month ago:
I believe truly having no empathy would make it impossible to form anything other than surface level friendships.
The only precious resource I own is my time, and who I spend it with. The thing in life that makes the hard times seem not so bad, and the good times twice as good, is spending with people I care about, and people that I know care about me.
To be pathological about it… My asking questions about you IS a means to an end. It gives a few useful things:
- I learn about you
- I learn about your worldview, I learn what motivates you
- and I learn where you tend to sell yourself short so I know how to encourage you
Talking about yourself is “giving” when only you share vulnerability. 1 word answers is keeping your guard up. Asking about them is “giving” because you get opportunities to learn about/support/uplift them. People like getting questions. It can make them feel cared for.
And I’m not saying anything is wrong with you. Just sharing my perspective.
And I’m a guy, so I guess you’d really be puzzled if we met IRL!
- Comment on If I’m mostly attracted to men, is it «wrong» to consider myself pan? 2 months ago:
I was just in a group setting where 3 people who all had a tendency for “same sex attraction” described themselves differently.
One individual strongly preferred the term queer.
The second identified as pan because they liked the flag more than the bi flag, but admitted that bi might be a better fit for them.
The third indentified as bi.
The discussion of accurate terminology could be helpful in some settings, but… In casual settings, or even when negotiating intimacy with other people, what YOU mean by the term means more than the term itself, and you are not out of place by feeling “generally fuzzy” on usage.
- Comment on What's something that you find unintentionally scary/creepy but isn't? 2 months ago:
When adult men using the urinal allow their pants to fall down around their ankles while peeing
- Comment on What do you call your first cousin's child? 5 months ago:
With such sharp, acidic wit, you might say the prose is… Lemony.
- Comment on What do you call your first cousin's child? 5 months ago:
“He was my fourth cousin, thrice removed. He just couldn’t stay away from the bottle and started many brawls at the reunions, baptisms, and funerals.”
- Comment on What do you call your first cousin's child? 5 months ago:
This is a phenomenal resource! In all my years, I haven’t actually heard anyone say “once removed” in story telling. I would almost feel weird saying it, despite it being technically correct. It’s like saying “whom” out loud, you might be right, but people start mocking you.
Yes I need better coworkers, what are you gonna do…
- Comment on Syncthing Android app discontinued 5 months ago:
The point you raise reminds me of when Signal dropped SMS support, after my efforts to convert all the non techie people in my life over to it. So sad when it happens…