I was just in a group setting where 3 people who all had a tendency for “same sex attraction” described themselves differently.

One individual strongly preferred the term queer.

The second identified as pan because they liked the flag more than the bi flag, but admitted that bi might be a better fit for them.

The third indentified as bi.

The discussion of accurate terminology could be helpful in some settings, but… In casual settings, or even when negotiating intimacy with other people, what YOU mean by the term means more than the term itself, and you are not out of place by feeling “generally fuzzy” on usage.