growsomethinggood

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨uhh… my ex girlfriend and long-time friend is now cishet, very christian, and makes those “i identify as” jokes regarding trans people. would it end up bad for me if i continued to be her friend?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Just so you know, someone isn’t “really nice” if they make jokes like that. Maybe she used to be nice, but she isn’t acting that way now.

  I’m not sure how old you are, but it sounds like you’re both still teenagers or maybe young adults. People are trying to figure themselves out at that time, and sometimes what they try out is edgelord (especially when the edgelords are gaining political power). She may be testing boundaries of what is socially acceptable, in which case it’s in her best interests as well as yours to gently push back against this kind of behavior (or more forcefully later if she doesn’t take a hint).

  Something like, “hey, it makes me uncomfortable when you make those ‘identify as’ jokes. You know I’m nonbinary and that sort of humor makes me feel like you don’t respect me. I fully support your identity, including your faith, and as your friend I hope you would do the same for me.”

  Even if you are 1-on-1 for that chat, she is almost certainly going to respond negatively to that, so I would drop it there, but be prepared to remind her that you don’t like it later. Ideally after some reflection she wakes up and realizes she’s causing harm to your friendship, but be prepared to break it off entirely with her if she doesn’t want to treat you with respect.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mexican President Threatens to Sue Google Over 'Gulf of America' Label on Maps.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  It shows up as “Gulf of Mexico (Gulf of America)” outside of the US apparently. That seems like enough to make a fuss to me; bodies of international water have specific rules around name changes and the US can’t unilaterally decide differently.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Are you sure they are intending it in a diminutive sense and not a familiar or affectionate sense? Buddy is pretty common to call people you are being friendly with in American English at least. If you don’t like a nickname or term of endearment, you can tell your friends not to use it, but fair warning, friends of your age might just tease you about it instead of respecting your wishes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Swiss Experiment Will Place Solar Panels Between Train Tracks⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Haha, all good until you get some gravel in the brush!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Swiss Experiment Will Place Solar Panels Between Train Tracks⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Hey, ideas are great to explore, and we don’t know if there’s a place or community this would serve. Not every project has to be scalable! Diversity of uses is a good thing. There’s not a single solution for moving to renewable energy, creativity will be required.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Swiss Experiment Will Place Solar Panels Between Train Tracks⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  A very neat idea, quite innovative! My initial reaction would be that this would be a great way to recycle panels from larger, traditional projects that are getting upgraded anyway. My concern with new panels is that with moving trains above them, there’s a strong chance for breaks in the glass depending on what’s being transported, and a huge amount of loss due to dirt accumulating. Those conditions may result in harsh losses for new panels, which may be more beneficial in production elsewhere! Mid- to end-of-life panels might not be producing as much power anyway, so getting a second life in a situation like this one might squeeze a little more power out of them that you wouldn’t get otherwise.

  Of course, solar panels are very inexpensive nowadays, so financially it might not make that big a difference, but I think it’s good to think about best use of the resources we have regardless!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Monsters Help 🥺⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t know much to be useful in id-ing on sight, but can you describe the conditions it’s been in? Is the soil well-draining? How long does it take for the top inch of soil to appear dried out, and how often are you watering? Did you repot it recently, and/or is the pot the right size (just a bit bigger than the roots)? How often are you using fertilizer? Is it getting any direct light? How many direct and indirect light hours total do you think? Is it autumn where you are and it’s adjusting to less light, or vice versa?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨have you ever had to confront a female mob at the workplace?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Is there a reason you have characterized this incident as a gender issue?

  Was the poor work the work of the nurse who heard you and chewed you out? Do you often criticize the work of your coworkers in a nonproductive manner, expletives or no?

  Did you say anything else before saying “fuck” to your coworker, or before she chewed you out? Do you think you were on good terms with her before this incident?

  Are you listening to the specifics of your coworkers’ complaints? What are they asking you to do differently?