Don’t answer in generic manner.
This is your free space to rant your heart out.
Lonely. I spend most of my time alone. When I am with others I still feel alone. I don’t connect with the people in my life. No one understands me. It sucks.
How are you really doing?
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daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
ramenshaman@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
How often to you socialize? Hand you heard of Bumble BFF? My girlfriend just made a really good and potentially lifelong friend there.
daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I don’t socialize very often. I shoot the shit with coworkers, most of whom i’m indifferent to but that’s about it. As for dating or friend finding apps I feel guilty. I don’t have much to offer and I feel like a burden. I can’t drive which is a big issue and I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere.
AFallingAnvil@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
A bit nervous. I bought a house with my long distance girlfriend of two years, we move in this coming Friday. We had multiple visits (some months long), and the house is like 92% in my name with an exit strategy for me to buy her out if we split so I’m not jumping in blindly or anything but I was ready to try something more serious.
I should be happy and excited, I worked damn hard and saved for years but I’m mostly just worried that since we both work from home it’ll be too much of a good thing. I’m assuming it’s mostly the stress of getting the house and all the paperwork and crap but it’s still an important worry to work through. I hope you guys are hanging in there, all the best.
ericatty@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
Some people work together well. My husband and I have been married over 25 years, the last 20 years we’ve worked closely together.
It’s hasn’t been perfect 100% of the time, but I wouldn’t change a thing.
You just have to figure out conflict resolution AND how to respect when one of you needs downtime (we are both mostly introverts that need to recharge sometimes)
AFallingAnvil@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
That’s reassuring, thank you. She has agreed to do a couple sessions of couples therapy with me after we move in to help establish a solid foundation for living together and get used to communication before there’s anything stressful to communicate about.
She’s coming from a household with pretty garbage communication styles so I’m hoping it helps her reset so to speak and get a fresh start.
tjsauce@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Tired. I’m gonna get q sleep study, but I’m also low on time to do my hobbies, like music production or media history
Enkers@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Weird. I caught feels for a vtuber recently (completely unexpectedly) and now feel suddenly motivated to improve my life. It also feela like I got hit by truck with emotions that have been nonfunctional for several years.
Parasocial relationships are tough, as they can never be fully reciprocated, and dealing with that feels like it’s going to be a bit stressful. That’s also precisely why I’d avoided them and thought myself immune, but apparently not. Lol
felsiq@piefed.zip 3 weeks ago
If you don’t mind me asking, how does that work? I don’t know a lot about vtubers - is your crush on the character? On the vtuber themself? Do you know anything about the person behind the character or are they fully in character at all times?
No pressure to answer this if it’s too prying, tho!
Enkers@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Sure, I could try! It’s still a bit confusing since it was mostly just entertainment for me until very recently.
It’s a combination tbh. Obviously a lot of it is acting, and you never know exactly how genuine your oshi really really is, but their personality, tastes, and sense of humour all shine through. It’d be generally pretty tough for it to be a complete facade and for them to still seem genuine.
Then again, you never know. I’ve heard there were some VTs who did a complete 180 in personality, for example. I think it’d be hard to not notice some signs, but strong feelings can severely cloud judgement, so who knows.
The character’s design and mannerisms are also pretty important, though. I think a lot of the time the VTs will want to play a character that’s kinda an idealised version of themselves. If they see themselves as cute or cool or sexy, they’ll play up those attributes.
As for knowing stuff about them, I think it also varies from VT to VT. Some are more willing to share aspects of their personal life than others. The one I fell for is quite open about her life, but I’m someone who highly values honesty and integrity, so I guess that tracks.
xx3rawr@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Sauce for this vtuber?
Enkers@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
That’s a secret. I’d rather not publicly out my degeneracy level, dayo ne.
bappity@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
pretty bad. my emotional state gets absolutely wrecked for the day if I make the smallest of mistakes talking to people. I know how it’s triggered but not why it’s so intense. can barely bring myself to do anything these days cos of it
ramenshaman@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Mostly good. Work is going fairly well but if things go as planned I’ll be going back to school part-time starting this month.
I’m approaching my 3-year anniversary with my girlfriend but I ask myself if I want to marry her my answer is “quite possibly”, which scares me. If I’m going to marry someone I think the answer should be “yes”, “absolutely”, “fuck yeah”, or similar. She’s wonderful and I love her enough that breaking up would be very rough for me and absolutely devastating for her. The fact that she moved in with me would make things even harder.
Vanilla_PuddinFudge@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
Half of a foot in nostalgia, another foot in insane possibilities, hobbies and tech, a hand on my family and their goings on and another hand on paying my car off and planning for my aging mother’s death and handling the eventual fallout that will ensue.
Timecircleline@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I feel guilty. I boarded my cats today to go on my first vacation in years. We kept it local so we can come back pretty easy if something happens, and the facility is super bougie, with webcams and daily photo and video updates. One of my cats has special needs and it makes it difficult to have her watched by a friend or family. Logically I know they are safe and looked after but damn I miss them and I don’t know how I’m going to sleep without my little purring weighted blankets :(
CarrmynCarnage@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
The horrors persist but so do I.
Kalladblog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Fine.
DrunkAnRoot@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
im surviving off of pbr and dry ramen
LadyMeow@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Serious posting??? I myyyy shitpost community???
But seriously… it’s. Complicated. Some things are going really great! My life has improved so much after accepting and coming out as trans! Or, at least my personal mental health has. It frustrates me that I’ve finally found a path that could give me some happiness and the country is going to shit.
Yeah there I said it, this country is a fash shithole. I can’t believe it and want to get out. But that’s a lot of work, like the ‘well of you don’t like it leave’ thing only works for like… a dinner party. Keeping a life together while fleeing a shit country is not exactly easy.
But I got my brains fucked out the other night and that was …. Exquisite
Gork@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Congrats on the sex!