Yo man, love is not what you thought it was, and this is a part of it. It’s very normal for stuff like that to come up when a child is born. It’s common to find yourself in tmruts where you don’t feel attracted to one another. Most of all, it’s super fucking healthy to talk about it and not just pretend like everything is great.

Best advice is that you, her, and the two of you as a couple all get in therapy. Talking with people about this stuff is what helps that settle the dust after that flashbang.

My therapist would say “yeah, you’re not going to be wild about each other all the time without MDMA or cocaine. And it wouldn’t be healthy. This is healthy.”

If she’s shutting down when you suggest mental health support for her, suggest it for her for you. She might not think she needs it but you two are a dyadic unit. You live together, her her mental health affects you both, just as yours affects her.