I feel like part of the reason for socialization is to build a safety net in case something happens. People would often know their entire neighborhood and what people did in case they needed help and it required more social contact in order to gain access to that safety net.
Forgive me if I’m wrong, but I feel like being trans is harder than being cis in terms of having access to traditional means of support, so trans people have to build those means of support within their communities. It is more life or death to need friends that you can rely on if you’re trans because social systems outside of their communities will misunderstand you at best and be actively life threatening at worst.
A cis male doesn’t have a metaphorical gun to their head making them get friends.
Jtotheb@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
I [straight] learned sometime 2015-20 that a lot of my queer friends’ friends have questions about them hanging out with me and other straight people, and that they all center around whether we are outgoing and supportive, not whether we’re bigots or anything. ‘Straight’ has become a stand in there for ‘won’t show up to events, won’t message back, won’t reciprocate’. And honestly surveying my straight friends it’s generally true; they’re monogamous and isolated in that fashion or they’re single and they’re dying a slow death on the apps or in a mediocre situationship. And they all love to stay home when invited out and they all love to talk about modern loneliness.