Comment on Is my girlfriend gaslighting me?
hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 4 months ago
I don't think it's gaslighting. Gaslighting is manipulating someone into questioning their perception of reality. This is being angry at someone.
I can't really relate. Is it really that dangerous where you live? We probably live in different countries but I don't have CCTV in the residential area where I live. And usually in the summer, it's still bright enough at 10pm an people are still around and it's safe enough for women to walk home alone. At least in most places.
RyanLiu@lemmy.world 4 months ago
We live in Taiwan, it’s pretty safe afaik, also CCTV is everywhere here especially in and around the big cities.
Brunbrun6766@lemmy.world 4 months ago
So, London?
lvxferre@mander.xyz 4 months ago
I get that you’re trying to get more info to help OP out better, but I think that it’s better to drop this “where are you from?” talk. Privacy-wise it’s rather problematic, you know? [Sorry for the uncalled advice.]
GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 4 months ago
Asking someone their country of residence is privacy intruding? Lol
In Tue strictest sense perhaps, but I dont think a criminal could make something of the knowledge that I am from Germany.
Brunbrun6766@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Lmao it was a joke because London is known for their extremely extensive CCTV network
RyanLiu@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Haha, our city has a much lower crim rate than London actually.
hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 4 months ago
Yeah, sometimes perceived reality and the real reality are two things. And there are places where you can't walk on the streets as a woman. I'm not sure if it's about fear in your case. Or just because you broke your promise but there isn't any fear involved.
Anyways, in relationships general advice is to talk to each other. Ask her what's bothering her. Maybe it's a pretend reason and there is something deeper that's bothering her. Maybe this was the reason. Maybe she just had a bad day.
Unless it happens regularly or there are other factors to it, I wouldn't necessarily attribute it to malice or be a manipulation strategy...