Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures?

• meekah@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  But then it’s still just arranged dating at best. Maybe the parents look for someone who is interested in entering a marriage in the first place, but that doesn’t make it an arranged marriage IMO.

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  • fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    that doesn’t make it an arranged marriage IMO

    Amazing.

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    • meekah@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      so no argument as to why it would actually be an arrange marriage, despite the described scenario not necessarily ending in a marriage?

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      • fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Sorry mate. You don’t seem very bright. If you look back through this comment thread you’re the only one talking about dating and whatever. I said it’s subjective several comments ago.

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  • Devi@kbin.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    It's not dating exactly, but there are dates involved. The parents pick someone that you're intended to marry, they bring them round and go "here, we think you should marry this person". You get chatting with them, go out for some dates, in the modern age you're probably texting each other etc, but it's not like western dating where you're just seeing how it goes, you're deciding if you want to marry.

    After a short while you would say 'yup, this seems good'.

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    • meekah@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I mean I’m aware that this isn’t like western dating but it’s still not an arranged marriage. Saying that this is an arranged marriage is like having your parents pick out a hairdresser and calling it a haircut.

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      • Devi@kbin.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I think you're confused. That is arranged marriage.

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