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abbadon420@lemm.ee 4 months agoNo, I guess I should’ve mentioned to not abuse your child this way. Just like a microwave manual mentions that you should not put your cat in a microwave.
Ookami38@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
Problem is, withholding food is abuse, period. You’re telling someone who doesn’t have the same neurological capacities you do to either starve or eat something they very likely have a visceral reaction to.
The other poster mentioned they missed the ‘potentially autistic’ part. While withholding food is abusive regardless,this for sure exacerbates the issues. I suspect you may have missed that part as well. It’s okay, just have some humility to step back and say so. Or keep advocating for old school abusive parenting.
abbadon420@lemm.ee 4 months ago
Quite the contrary. It’s abusive to only feed your kids mcdonalds, because that’s the only thing they want. You’re telling someone who doesn’t have the nerological capacities you do that they can decide whatever they want to eat.
My kids get a varied diet with all the nutrients they need. They can choose not to eat it, that’s fine, but I’m not going to give them mcdonalds instead. Mcdonalds does not provide the same nutrients as a well balanced meal.
Sometimes I persuade them to “just eat a few bites” and than they can have desert as reward.
Maybe this approach doesn’t work for neurodivergent kids, but I never claimed it did. If you have a neurodivergent kid, you should maybe look into other methods. I should add that I also don’t know if this works for children of all ages, genders, races, handicaps, species, planets and dimensions. It works good enough for my kids and I’m taking that as a win.
Ookami38@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
Right. So maybe go back to the last paragraph, admit you probably missed the potential neurodivergency, and show some humility. Or double down and continue to offer bad advice.
No one here has said just let the kid eat what they want. Not OP, not me, not anyone else. We all want the kid to eat a better diet. That’s literally the purpose of this thread.
The problem is that, for non-typical situations, typical solutions don’t work. And, even for typical situations, starvation isn’t the best option. We’re trying to explore other possibilities, rather than the traditional ones, and being told “force the kid, you’re the parent” is at best tone deaf.
abbadon420@lemm.ee 4 months ago
I see were this is going wrong. The last sentence of OP’s post says:
That wasn’t there yesterday.