I mean, considerate of you and all but maybe this is just my chaos sitzpinkler enby opinion but if you get into the habit of checking the toilet for a second beforehand because you don’t expect it to be reset for your specific needs this doesn’t happen.

I never expect people to put the seat down for me nor do I expect to put the seat up for them as both require the same amount of effort to rejig the toilet seat and it cannot be counted on who will be using the bathroom next. This feels a little bit “holding the door open for the lady” courtesy. A weird holdover gendered etiquette expectation for folks who stand and pee that just hasn’t been re-examined.