Comment on How can a ugly and short guy compensate for his looks?
Steve@communick.news 7 months agoIf you want Y, do X.
But don’t do X because you want Y.
Comment on How can a ugly and short guy compensate for his looks?
Steve@communick.news 7 months agoIf you want Y, do X.
But don’t do X because you want Y.
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 months ago
Self improvement to realize an idealized self is it’s own reward. In doing so, you become more attractive to people in a natural way. It’s not contradictory. Chasing self improvement as a vehicle to love or sex has the pitfall of losing your motivation for self improvement when you suffer rejection, but rejection is normal, common, and not as big a deal as it can sometimes feel.
Steve@communick.news 7 months ago
If you want this, do that. But don’t do that only because you want this.
It’s still pretty contradictory.
I think it’s just one of the necessary contradictions/lies that society requires to function.