Comment on Relationship advice?

HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• monko@lemmy.zip ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  If they meet someone they want to date more than you, why would they keep you around? You’re 75% less ideal. What are you bringing to the table, besides a lower average score for the polycule?

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  • HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Why are you the voice of my insecurities? :p

    Clearly it's because I'm another dedicated player for the polycule tabletop game.

    Not sure where that 75% number is coming from?

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    • monko@lemmy.zip ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Sorry, I didn’t mean to poke at your anxieties! I was remarking on the arbitrary nature of the original post.

      While you’re probably right that Eliezer is open to dating poly people, the post in question definitely appears to take a monogamous stance—that is, the question of whether to exchange one person for another of “higher value.”

      Saying that you’re cool if

      one my partners meets someone else they want to date at least as much as me, they do

      is different from

      I’d trade up if I found somebody 10%/25%/125% better than you

      which is what the original post said.

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    • odigo2020@lemmy.zip ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      It’s from the image post.

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      • HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Ah, the last section. Not incredibly relevant to my post?

        On the whole I don't really model an average of the polycule as a general thing. If dating someone I'm not currently would make me happier I talk to my partners about the possibility of a relationship. Thus far this has never gone in an either / or direction; it doing so would be a significant reduction in expected happiness.

        Unrelatedly, that paragraph drove my autocorrect / suggester absolutely stupid. It kept trying to shove "def" into the last sentence, and suggesting other nonsense.

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