Saying something is sad isn’t shaming it. It’s saying it makes you sad. Which can be caused by whatever depending on the purpose. You wouldn’t say someone expressing that at a funeral was shaming the deceased would you?
Well, I’d say you’re right, but I don’t know how you could have enough information about me to make such a determination just from this short conversation.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 months ago
Saying something is sad isn’t shaming it. It’s saying it makes you sad. Which can be caused by whatever depending on the purpose. You wouldn’t say someone expressing that at a funeral was shaming the deceased would you?
foggy@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I think your life is sad.
Let me know how you took that.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 months ago
Well, I’d say you’re right, but I don’t know how you could have enough information about me to make such a determination just from this short conversation.
foggy@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Right. And not does Jason have enough info on OP.
So it comes across, as I said, as a “gatekeeper-ass” thing to say in the context of OPs journey to self hosting.
Where they are is in no way “sad”. Except if you’re being an adversarial gatekeeper dick about purity.