You did the right thing by guiding them when you caught them doing something dangerous,.
But that’s your kid. You raised them. They didn’t know this because you hadn’t taught them yet. Don’t blame the year they were born.
KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 months ago
I never understood Gen Z’s mindset to privacy. Caught my son telling people lots of personal info on chat roulette at one point, and had to have a long discussion. This was after already telling him about the fact that you shouldn’t just tell people online, or strangers, personal details. Never mind strangers online.
EatATaco@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Candelestine@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Looking at generations has more to it than simple ageism. Much of human behavior is a product of their culture, their surroundings. These surroundings change over time, and in the modern world, very rapidly. It’s the music, the films, books, memes, sayings, attitudes etc.
Discrimination is definitely something we want to avoid. But completely ignoring these unique cultural influences that change year-to-year, and are a natural part of growing up, is simply foolish. Parents do not, and should not, simply bear 100% responsibility for what their kids do, when their kids are not, and should not be, complete and utter slaves.
EatATaco@lemm.ee 9 months ago
I’m not rejecting the claim that generations are unique and people are influenced of what they have grown up around.
However, we’re not talking about what kind of music they like or their attitude tattoos, but basic safety. A parent of a millennial might have a good reason to not understand the risks of private information on the Internet, as it was completely new when their kids were growing up. But now we know better.
The poster might as well have said “I saw my kid cross the street without looking and almost get hit by a car. Gen z kids make no sense to me!” No, that’s your responsibility as a parent to teach them this.
Sure maybe not 100%, but in this case case we’re taking at least 95%.
Candelestine@lemmy.world 9 months ago
If a kids parents say one thing, and the world says another, I do not think 95% would side with the parent. I think the number would actually be flipped.
That said, I do agree that parents have an important responsibility to try to teach good safety practices.
KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 months ago
Not always how it works unfortunately. I had previously sat him down and told him all of this, including things like the fact that chat roulette type sites aren’t safe. “But my friends all do it” is pretty much the only thing he said when I asked him why he thought this would be okay.
Believe me, I’m a product of the early and mostly unregulated web, I’ve seen it at its best and worst. There was no way I was letting him access the internet without multiple talks on safety.
BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Yep.
My father schooled me on similar issues, decadesbefore the internet.
Don’t talk about family business (both family stuff and business stuff, as he was self employed), to people. It’s none if their business.
As kids we tend to be naïve.
UNWILLING_PARTICIPANT@sh.itjust.works 9 months ago
I’d also throw in some falsehoods for good measure, just to blur the trail, like how I grew up Antarctica where my 3 dads raised me to work in fintech, but I went my own way, so now I’m estranged from 2 of them
muntedcrocodile@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Bruh shouldnt be lettin ur son have unlimmited internet access. Set up a bunch of blocks and limmits and once they figure how to bypass it then they can do what they please
KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 months ago
You ever tried to keep a kid from accessing things? My network was parent controlled out the ass, and all it really takes is going over to a friends house, or borrowing a relatives iPad, and he had free rein on the internet.
Not to mention the school had an unrestricted network with a simple 8 character password certain students figured out.
It’s not as simple as “just set up blocks.” 🤦🏻♂️
muntedcrocodile@lemmy.world 9 months ago
When they by0ass it they have earned the privalege thats how i earned the privalege.
KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 months ago
… So I should keep my 10 year old away from porn, until he goes to a friends house, at which point he has “earned the privilege” to watch porn?
That ain’t how life works. There are things a developing brain should not have access to. One of them being porn, others being gore sites, anonymous chat sites, and more.
aclarkc@midwest.social 9 months ago
You’ve done nothing wrong but FYI you can block things at a device level in most cases. My little kid currently has device level restrictions as well as NextDNS restrictions. As she gets older I’ll probably look at something more strict like a provisioned profile to make it harder for her to work around those restrictions. Nothings perfect and as you said kids will find a way.
KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 months ago
Back when this took place, dns level stuff wasn’t very prevalent in the consumer market. Hell, even parental control on devices was non-existent. I had to MDM his phone just to gain the control I needed, and even then it wasn’t everything I needed without paying out the ass for what was essentially corporate level management of devices.
These days I’m running a whole slew of things that could handle it easily, but at this point he’s out of the house living on his own.