This has happened a few times as well on this side. An honest question of trying to understand, and then get told that’s doing “sea lioning” which is something that was pointed out a day or two ago. Learn something new every day.

But it makes one sad if you do want to learn, to really understand better, without harm meant or judgement, and NOT every time, but most of the time, being called a (insert a sensitive topic here)-ophobe.

There are things that even wikipedia doesn’t explain properly, so one has to sometimes ask, especially if it’s really something you either don’t understand or get at all. Like on this side it’s literally not knowing any better, that got the trouble going, not harmful intent.

There are still questions about queer / femboy / trans that are a mystery, but makes one too scared of offending. And this is written with 100% sincerity. This is not a blaming game or finger pointing exercise.

And imagine it’s someone who actually is interested or still wanting to come out and asking sincere questions, if someone attacks you, it would put you off for life, nevermind being hurt by a group / race / idea that you aspire or look up to. :-(