Consider looking into what was formerly called Asperger’s. I resonate strongly with what you’re saying and recently found out in my 30s, that I’m autistic. I have a good sense of humor and decent social skills so I never even thought to check, but 1) turns out I knew jack shit about what autism actually is, and 2) the ADHD was actually hiding quite a bit of it. If you have questions or want resources feel free to dm me.