Comment on I realized why I like friendships with lesbians
quotheraven404@lemmy.world 11 months ago
The reverse has been true and openly discussed for ages, there’s a reason the “sassy gay best friend” is such a trope in shows and movies made for female viewers. A decent percentage of our conversations with friends has to do with our attraction to or problems with our desired gender, so being able to commiserate with someone that has the same preferences also encourages these friendships. There’s just an extra layer of relatability that hetero mixed gender friendships don’t. It would be odd to point at a stranger while out with a heterosexual female friend and say “look at that chick, isn’t she hot?” Your friend could potentially think you’re trying to say that if she were more like that chick then maybe you’d want to date her. Even saying something like “women are crazy” has a very different tone when said by a man to a straight woman.
Perfide@reddthat.com 11 months ago
I’m a straight man and I’d also be deeply uncomfortable if a friend of mine just randomly asked me if a random woman passing by is hot. It’s a weird thing to randomly ask.
I’d be even more uncomfortable with ANYONE(including women) saying something as generalized as “women are crazy”. Screw the “different tone” BS, there is NO tone you can say that in with a straight face where it’s not at least a little misogynistic, and a LOT of tones you can say it in where it is SUPER misogynistic.
1847953620@lemmy.world 11 months ago
You’re deeply uncomfortable with other men being open about attraction banter with you? To each their own, but it’s not necessarily a virtue.
The rest is technically fine, but weird that no-one was talking about it. Very soapbox-y. On a separate point, I never see women being this careful when talking about men anywhere. Doesn’t make misogyny ok, but generalizations are one of those highly contextual topics where black and white assumptions about anyone don’t seem to quite work out all of the time.