I would rather people don’t use it at all if you don’t mind and I gladly censor myself when it comes to other slurs. I can’t convey the mental anguish and self hatred that I’ve suffered all because of an immutable characteristic of my sexuality. You can treat it lightly because you haven’t gone through that suffering. It’s one thing for someone to make fun of you for kicks. It’s quite another for entire groups of people to hate you because of what you are.