You’re sending our guy on the High Fidelity path. Be careful OP, Cusak thought he wanted the feedback, too.
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casualhippo@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
If you’re up for it, why not ask your past dates why they think you guys didn’t work out, or what you could work on as a person. People you’ve spent time with will probably give you the most objective take if there was anything other than “we just didn’t mesh”.
whynotzoidberg@lemmy.world 11 months ago
casualhippo@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
That being said, you need to be able to handle criticism (constructive or not) in order for that conversation to happen and benefit you
CookieOfFortune@lemmy.world 11 months ago
And if you’re the type that does not handle criticism well, don’t expect honest answers. So you should first determine if you are ok at handling criticism.
SadSadSatellite@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
And if you’re that type, we’ve already found the answer you wanted in the first place.
hoshikarakitaridia@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
That said, also remember everyone has their emotional baggage so if ppl criticise you, don’t take it at face value eather.
I know, criticism and therefore self-reflection is hard. I’ve been over overcompensating and self optimizing to the point that ppl tell me to start being more confident and basically try do more mistakes. It’s always a balancing act.
ReluctantMuskrat@lemmy.world 11 months ago
And part of his problem might be who he’s chosing to date. Bad partner choices aren’t necessarily going to give you helpful feedback.