Comment on The forbidden topics of hacker communities
jasory@programming.dev 1 year agoIf we have insufficient information, how do we know that innocent people are actually being harmed, or if we do take action (the minimum action you seem to be advocating for is ostracism) against the accused how do we know that they are not the innocent ones?
Are we really supposed to resort to broad statistics when making intimate decisions?
hassanmckusick@lemmy.discothe.quest 1 year ago
Either way someone’s getting ostracized. People who don’t ostracize the accused are going to ostracize the accuser.
jasory@programming.dev 1 year ago
“Ostracizing” the accuser is generally voluntary. There is a difference between “I’m not comfortable working with this person” and leaving, and everyone coming to you and saying “Get out”.
The latter is fairly rare to happen to accusers, but it’s expected for the accused.
hassanmckusick@lemmy.discothe.quest 1 year ago
That’s not true. Kids have been disowned by their families for reporting SA. Ostracization is a real possibility for victims and it’s a very large part of causes rapes to go unreported. Nobody wants to be friends with the person who makes false allegations.
Not to mention you’re leaving out all the people who will see someone actually convicted and decide not to ostracize the guilty person because “akchually he’s a good guy”.
The reality is that it is insanely hard to fence-sit on I don’t believe the accusation but I don’t think the accuser is lying either.
jasory@programming.dev 1 year ago
But we are talking about a professional community, most people in this community that the post is about aren’t friends and likely don’t interact with each other outside of the work they do.