And I kinda walked away and came back to this several times but like I said, my take away is I’m happy it happened cus I learned stuff about myself (need those hugs and snuggles) but also what I want in a partner: someone who can help me (she didn’t do it that often tho), play games with and be a goober, someone who respects my needs but also communicates theirs, mostly that’s in the context of getting physical where after two years I didn’t get to second base (unless you consider me putting my head on her lap and falling sleep, best shit ever)
But am I sad I never got super physical beyond smooching and snuggles, yeah sorta, but at the same time I view sex and getting handsy as a physical way for you and your partner ti feel great, essentially share a moment together that’s good for all parties involved. But if she can break up with me a week before Valentine’s Day yeah she doesn’t meet the criteria then
But back to your point 100%, the future Mrs. FlipFlop is out there and it’s just a matter of searching and trial and error and error probably. But for me I’m almsot outta college and I’ll probably turn it into a more active search
You’ve put into words what I’ve processing between self reflection and talking with some buddies so tysm. But yeah I did sort of ghost her (she knew this was a possibility when we spoke last as she wanted to be friends but I needed to go over some stuff in my head) as things just got too complex I figured it would be best
And yeah she was the one who asked me out (tbh did and still does wonders for my self confidence) but like I said after I’m done with my studies it’s gonna a much more active effort than hoping a friend makes the first move on me
FlihpFlorp@piefed.zip 1 day ago
For sure
And I kinda walked away and came back to this several times but like I said, my take away is I’m happy it happened cus I learned stuff about myself (need those hugs and snuggles) but also what I want in a partner: someone who can help me (she didn’t do it that often tho), play games with and be a goober, someone who respects my needs but also communicates theirs, mostly that’s in the context of getting physical where after two years I didn’t get to second base (unless you consider me putting my head on her lap and falling sleep, best shit ever)
But am I sad I never got super physical beyond smooching and snuggles, yeah sorta, but at the same time I view sex and getting handsy as a physical way for you and your partner ti feel great, essentially share a moment together that’s good for all parties involved. But if she can break up with me a week before Valentine’s Day yeah she doesn’t meet the criteria then
But back to your point 100%, the future Mrs. FlipFlop is out there and it’s just a matter of searching and trial and error and error probably. But for me I’m almsot outta college and I’ll probably turn it into a more active search
Garbagio@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
FlihpFlorp@piefed.zip 1 day ago
You’ve put into words what I’ve processing between self reflection and talking with some buddies so tysm. But yeah I did sort of ghost her (she knew this was a possibility when we spoke last as she wanted to be friends but I needed to go over some stuff in my head) as things just got too complex I figured it would be best
And yeah she was the one who asked me out (tbh did and still does wonders for my self confidence) but like I said after I’m done with my studies it’s gonna a much more active effort than hoping a friend makes the first move on me