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shads@lemy.lol 2 days agoI’d love to be wrong, but I feel like we are wired in certain ways by the evolutionary process we are the product of. I think the nurture comes in to play with regards to overcoming some of those baser instincts and drives. Anyone who has raised boys can tell you that for most boys they go through phases of being overly aggressive and or violent, that can often be redirected into better ways of getting that out. Can’t speak for girls or people on the intersection due to lack of first hand experience and want to reiterate that I am fully aware that my anecdotes are not universal and everyone falls into a range of behaviours. I feel like what we lack is an elder species we can look up to and emulate, so we are going to need to figure it out for ourselves. I like to think we have the ability, here’s hoping.
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
What is your argument that that phase of boyhood is nature rather than nurture?
Kids that age are typically emulating their older peers, and things they’ve seen at school, in media, at home, in public, etc. if anything, I think that the behaviour difference we observe between adolescent boys and girls suggests that kids absorb gender roles very early. Even from before they can walk, the typical common toy selection differs greatly; girls get toys that teach them about working with people and caring, but get toys that teach them about manual labour(?!?!). Even if you don’t do that with your children, at school and daycare they’re surrounded by kids who are raised like that.
When my son was a preschooler, he loved to wear dresses, but as he approached school age he would wear them less and less, and completely stopped since he started school. I don’t think he grew out of it and we didn’t tell him to stop, but he learned that lesson from his peers.
All the abilities that set humans apart from other animals are social in nature, humans evolved to help each other (at least in small groups)
shads@lemy.lol 11 hours ago
That’s going to be a hard one to provide definitive answers on. Anecdotally though I saw it with my younger brothers, I saw it with my kids, I have seen it with my friends kids. I am convinced enough, but I will be swayed if someone with the right research and peer reviewed science can make a compelling case. If I had all that I would be presenting my thesis as a best selling book on behavioural psychology, finding a university that would offer me tenure and relaxing into a cushy life of academic celebrity, not posting on Lemmy.