Everyone is born weak, what kind of statement is that? Babies are not strong.

Who a person becomes as an adult is a product of their development throughout their formative years. There are many factors in that, so it’s far more complex than simple linear correlations, but overall having a shitty upbringing deeply contributes to a person’s likelihood of turning out shitty.

The cycle breakers who overcome it do in spite of it all, and are the exceptions rather than the rule. They also likely found support in other areas of their life whether that’s through friends, councilors, mentors, therapists, teachers, or what have you.

But someone who found none of those refuges would have extreme difficulty overcoming patterns ingrained through upwards of two decades of narcissistic abuse and emotional neglect starting from infancy.

It’s not because they were “born flawed,” and that’s a very problematic assumption. It’s also essentialist, so not very post-modern of you.