I kind of agree, but I’d add that a happy marriage doesn’t mean you can’t feel sexual attraction to other people or that it’s wrong to be sexual, you just shouldn’t be creepy about it.
Comment on Awkward interaction with my doctor
Solumbran@lemmy.world 1 day ago
To not sound like a creepy old guy, start by not being one.
“Attractive woman. 30-ish”
“Nice lady”
“pretty distracting”
“Continue eyes up!”
Like wtf, you are being so creepy about a fucking zipper! Even as I’m writing that I feel like your first defense would be something creepy like “I’m just a man, I can’t help feeling like that” or similar.
Man, it’s just a random person with a zipper open. She wasn’t flirting. If you were happily married you wouldn’t go drooling as soon as you see a woman with a zipper open just because she’s younger and “attractive” as if she’s nothing but a piece of meat.
You wouldn’t have felt so awkward if she was “ugly”, older, or a man; it’s quite clear from your description. The reason for that is that you are a creepy old dude.
And now all the sex obsessed creeps that feel targeted are going to downvote this because they feel offended.
angrystego@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
fizzle@quokk.au 20 hours ago
Well yes, but I’d kind of extend that to being just a person, able to control my actions but not feelings.
OP didn’t say he was fighting his instincts not to bend her over and give her a good deep dicking because her fly was down.
I personally find any kind of close proximity with a professional of any gender or age to be quite uncomfortable.
I would find it even more uncomfortable if their fly was down or whatever.
I would find it even more uncomfortable if the professional in close proximity with their fly down might think I was being inappropriate by noticing that their fly was down - an outcome much more likely if that person is an attractive young lady.
That said, you have some odd ideas about being older and being married. I’m in my mid 40s and have been with my partner for 15 years or so. I still find people in their 20s and 30s physically attractive, just like I did when I was 20 . Also my commitment to my partner does not mean I am magically blind to attractive people around me.