I have decided on Haven, since self-hosting is a requirement (I don’t trust anyone but me), it’s UI is similar, and it can do text, voice, and video. I found it a few months ago when the discord data breach broke, but waited because it doesn’t have a docker image.

Well a week into this and I have been giving issues, feature suggestions, and feedback to the dev, and I think it’s best combo of ‘in control of my data’ with ‘ease of setup’ and genuine, working, features. And the dev seems really excited to see users, and the back and forth on Github is something I don’t expect - just the excitement, the welcoming of ‘can we do this’ and ‘could this be changed to make that easier’.

It’s almost discord, as a web app, controlled by you, and made by just the one dev and a couple contributes. And the differences are easy to understand.