otter@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
I understood “making it” as accomplishing what you were pretending to be, often in the context of self-confidence
- someone is scared of public speaking and thinks they’re no good at it
- they pretend that they are someone who is good at it, in order to get through situations where they need to do public speaking
- they eventually just get good at it
PierceTheBubble@lemmy.ml 1 day ago
That’s another angle I didn’t consider. So you mean the traits one initially fakes, may become part of their personality (and therefore doesn’t require faking anymore)?
otter@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Pretty much, that’s what I understood it to mean anyway
I assume the phrase has been used in other contexts too
Bazoogle@lemmy.world 1 day ago
It’s often about imposter syndrome. People don’t feel like they belong, when really they often are the same as their peers. So if they just pretend like the belong they can keep the facade until their imposter syndrome goes away.
Triasha@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Exactly. A lot of getting good at something is practicing. No one wants to spend time doing something they suck at, especially in public, but rather than practice in private, we can try to trick ourselves into believing we are actually already talented, faking it to get the practice that is needed to build the skill.
This might also help with mild imposter syndrome.