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pycorax@sh.itjust.works 2 days agoWhat’s the difference between that and suppressing your true feelings? From my perspective, it just seems like a strategy for bottling up what you actually feel rather than letting your true feelings out. On the surface at least, it sounds like that’s a recipe for it blowing up at some point in a much worse way?
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 1 day ago
The difference is changing your mind.
pycorax@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Mind expanding on that? Because to put it bluntly, part of it just sounds like giving up and stagnating.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 1 day ago
That’s up to you. It’s your mind.
Example: I used to get really angry at people online when they were being stupid. My expectation of people was that they weren’t stupid, or would at least listen and learn. That expectation needed to change if I wanted to enjoy being online. So I changed my mind. I no longer expect people to not be stubborn idiots. Some are, and that’s ok.
Is it giving up? Giving up an expectation, yes. Did I give up trying to converse with the not stupid ones? Nope! And now I’m in a much better mood to do it.
pycorax@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Well I can definitely agree with that if it’s minor things like these. After all, you’re likely to not encounter this person after the conversation online. However, I think it’s a very different context if the object in question is more concrete and something you can own to improve your QOL or more.