Comment on Ending a relationship during the dating phase is a positive outcome.
squaresinger@lemmy.world 4 days agoRelationships taking work wasn’t my point.
My point was staying in a relationship that you really hate to be in because you feel committed even before commitment happened.
I’m specifically talking about the dating phase, not about having been together for 10 years.
I’ve seen it quite a few times that people were like “I really don’t want to marry that man/woman, but I said yes so now I have to.”
foggy@lemmy.world 4 days ago
That’s why I labeled my addendum as a caveat. I wasn’t addressing your core argument. I was trying to help people who night read it with the wrong perspective get the right ramp to what I think you were saying.
I think it’s just as common right now that young folks get in a relationship and after like 6-18mibths feel bored and think that’s a red flag.
squaresinger@lemmy.world 3 days ago
That’s fair, yes.
I think this might both be caused by media portraying relationships weirdly. On the one hand difficulty in long term relationships is displayed as a reason to end the relationship, while difficulty in new relationships is portrayed as something that warrants going to crazy lengths with huge romantic gestures to save the relationship.
In reality it’s just the other way round. If you start your relationship and there’s stuff where the partners are seriously incompatible, that’s a good reason to end it while investment and commitment is still low and there’s not a lot of cost to ending the relationship. On the other hand, if you have a long-term high-commitment relationship, investing more effort in saving it totally makes sense.